Should i get into this with my dad?

Question

i met my real dad for the first time last year. when i was 16 i found out i was adopted. that was in 2006. i will be 19 in dec. my foster parents weren't the nicest people in the world once i got older. my real dad told me the reason i was given away was because my grandparents (on my mom's side) never approved of the marriage between my mom and dad. they told my mom if she kept any kids by him they would disown her. i guess she would of rather give my older sister and myself away. they ended up keeping my 2 little sisters. now my mom is dead. and my dad is trying to make up for all the years he missed. i can't seem to get over the fact of him giving me up. should i get into that whole situation with him? possibly tonight. i want him to know how it hurt to find out the truth about my life. all the lies i was told. i always wanted a normal family life. but if that means me not being happy around my real dad. i would rather make my friends my family.

Answer 1

y didnt ur dad keep u guys or step up, if he wanted u and ur sister?

but if i were in this position then i wuld talk to him bout it. i wuld tell him the truth..how it hurt me and tht ur not sure if u want to mess up the relationship between u and ur foster parents. but i wuld talk to him bout it, mayb just mayb there is a good reason for them doing this

Answer 2

it ain't worth it

Answer 3

well it won't happen overnight

.all you can do is work on it

let him know how you feel deep inside, and work from there

he sounds like a decent person, and you sound like a decent person, hopefully you will be in each others life from this day forward,

and one day hopefully in the near future , your life will be happy with your real father

give him a chance , because at this time i am sure he is giving you a chance

good luck