Should i get married before or after the baby????

Question

my fiance and i were supposed to get married july 19th. well we postponed it b/c there was a lot of stressful things happening in the family (both sides), etc. Well I found out I am approx 2 months preggo now. Should I get married this fall? I'll be showing by then...Or should I wait and plan a wedding for after the baby is born. Some additional questions -- if we get married after the baby is born do you think it should share my last name until my fiance and i get married? And also, i really want to marry him asap -- thats all ive wanted for a long time -- but idk what everyone else will think. he's already been married once -- lasted less than a year bc she cheated but the thing is they only got married bc she got preggo and they had their wedding two weeks before their son was born. my fiance thinks people will think we're only getting married bc im preggo but i dont really think so bc we've been engaged for almost a year. what do you think??

thanks so much :)

Answer 1

im 8 weeks preggo also and also engaged for over a year.

my parents said we should marry before the baby because people will start to talk but wat does it matter to them people need to mind their own business. well we are plannin on gettin married pretty soon he wants to surprise me so his not tellin me when that day will come

dont let peoples thoughts put you down its you your baby and your fiance

good luck

Answer 2

i am going through the same thing but i decided to wait because i wanna be all skinny and stuff cuz you only get married one time or that's how it should be! lol....its your life...you choose

Answer 3

If you really want to get married do it know it really does not matter what other people think. It only matters what you two think if you love each other than do it.  Plus the new baby will keep you so busy that you may not get the chance to do it for awhile after its born. For the last name do what you would do if you were married so that you don't have to change it later

Answer 4

I went thru the same thing.  You should do whatever makes you happy tho.  In the state that I live in, the baby gets the mothers last name until that paternity affidavit is signed and notarized.  And who cares what everyone else thinks, its not like you are getting married because you are pregnant, you already had the date picked out.  

Answer 5

before or the kid would be a b*****d  

Answer 6

I think you should marry him. When the baby is born you will already have his last name, let people think what they want to think. Your family knows that yall love each other and since yall have been engaged for about a year now, it shouldn't matter if your pregnant or not. I say go for it! Good Luck in the future!

Answer 7

ok if you want to get married, so what if youre showing? and who cares what anyone thinks? the only three people who matter are you, your honey and your baby. but the baby should have your fiances last name, period. Its a lot of hassle to change it, so instead of having to change yours AND the babies, just change yours when its time. i think whenever you want to get married is a good time. If the love is there, and since you were planning on it anyways, go for it. I got married when i was about 5 weeks pregnant, however  i didnt know it at the time. To each thier own, good luck and god bless!!  

Answer 8

You should get married before the baby is born, especially since it was already planned. Otherwise people will think he is unwilling to man up and trying not to marry you. That is worse than their thinking he is doing it because of the pregnancy. It is time for you to put the baby first and not worry so much about what others might think.

Answer 9

Well, you've kind of put the cart before the horse.  You should get married, then have s*x, then end up pregnant, then have a baby.  You should marry each other ASAP, definitely before the baby is due.  

You've been engaged for almost a year.  Anyone who thinks you only got married because of the baby will think that if you wait until afterwards, but they'd probably also speculate about who was unwilling to get married earlier.  And, in the end, it's not that bad a thing to get married because of a baby on the way.  No, it shouldn't happen in the first place, but once it does, it's an indication of living up to one's responsibilities to marry (barring gross problems with one of the people involved, which should have kept you from having s*x with them).

Answer 10

If you don't care what anyone else thinks and you were planning on getting married anyhow then I say go for it!!!

If you do decide to wait until after the baby is born though, I would give it your hubby's last name!

Answer 11

people shouldn't think ya'll are getting married just b/c you are pregnant, if the wedding was just postponed.

if it were me i would get married before the baby is born.

(mainly b/c i grew up like that) it doesnt matter though

it is your life.

no one has any right to judge you.