Should i give my child up for adoption?

Question

to everyone who answer my question to that thanks alot of you were a big help i deleted my question because to many ignart people were posting comments not knowing the whole story or even asking. I just wanted to let you know that i decided that it was ignart of me to even think of doing that to my child. children are gods gift to us if he didnt think that we could do it he wouldnt let it happen. \i decided that after this one is born I'm going to donate my eggs so i can help people who cant have children. Im going to raise my 3 kids at 20 to the best of my ability probaly by myself and i dont care who looks down on me or who thinks anything ignart about me having 3 kids at 20 thank you all

Answer 1

what is ignart and when the kids are young they are fun but when they grow up ohhh my !

Answer 2

I personally, think the same way you do. About god's gift, and if we couldn't handle it, he wouldn't have let it happen.

I'm 17, and the thought of adoption for my baby has crossed my mind numerous times. Not for the reason a lot of young teens think(they don't want to give up their lives, go out, go to prom, so on.). I don't believe I could take care of her, financially. Her dad's not going to be there, and I'm not going to put him on the birth certificate or anything. I just wanted the best life possible for her, and I didn't think I could provide it for her. But finances aren't everything(sure I have my parents helping, god bless them, they've raised three children and allowing me to stay and help me to raise their grandchild), I believe that if you have enough love then you can do it. I didn't grow up with everything, but I grew up with so much love from my parents, that expensive things, and stuff didn't bother me to not have. Another reason I thought of it, was because I would be so different right now if I didn't have my father there. She won't, have her father. I wanted her to grow up with two loving, caring parents. I KNOW I have enough love for me and him.

good luck =]

Answer 3

I think that you should do whatever you want and feel is right

I am not gonna pass judgement as Im sure you are a lovely person and probably a great mother

I love the idea of donating eggs to other people =]

Go you woo =]

Answer 4

when i first read this question i was gonna jump in and tell you the exact same thing you just said in detail. that children are a gift of god and he wouldnt have let it happen if he didnt think you could handle them or be able to take care of him.

YOU are a strong woman and i admire that you stayed strong and stuck it out... just remember when the going gets tough the tought keep going.. i love that phrase.. my father has always said that to me and i know now what it means.. so keep up this wonderfull work. i agree with you one hundred percent on keeping your child..

Answer 5

THATS AWSOME! Good for you! abortion is the worst a person can do. i mean comon that baby is apart of you. its half of you and half of the person you love. its 2 wonderful people put as one. good luck in the future!

Answer 6

yeah dont do that. If your having problems supporting the kid find help wherever you can find it just dont give up on the kids. They need you and when you get older and see what great things you have created that are a part of you u will be proud that you made the right decision.

Answer 7

hey i salute you for bringing up your children into this world and not opted for abortion.

if you think you could not support your children then giving them up for adoption is a noble thing to do.

it's not that you're abandoning them but it's like giving them a better life.

of course it would be a noble thing to do if you would raise them up yourself.  if i am one of your children i'll be proud to have you as my mother. while other women are aborting and killing their babies with the reason that it's their choice, you otherwise have given life to these children. and i salute you for that.

Answer 8

Oh for pete sake people.  She is keeping her baby.  Final decision.  Why do some have to berate her for that?  What purpose does it serve other than to expound negativity on this board?  Try supporting her with encouraging words instead of breaking her down for being a mother.

Mothers need to be uplifted, not torn down.  Hammering her self esteem isn't going to do her or society a service at all.

kim,... Kudos to you for being strong enough to tackle mothering 3 young children at your age.  You know you can do it, don't let others tell you otherwise.  They do not know you!

I appreciate you updating us on where you stand with your decision.  I wish more people took the time to let members know when they make decisions.  Thank you for that.  

All my best to you.

~*~ The Artist formerly known as Ragdollhugs

Answer 9

I detect that your very wise! it's nice to be reminded that there are still people with good heads on thier shoulders. I don't believe adoption is a terrible thing, i probably will never get a chance to experience being a mother, if it weren't for those that give their children for adoption. If you can handle another then thats your choice, but don't look down on those who do consider adoption. Hvae a GREAT day congrats on your little bundle of joy! also that is great of you to donate eggs!....

and just for the record GOD can pay rent.. he can do anything... you need to be  dependant on him and he will bless you greatly in every aspect of your life.  :)

Answer 10

I know a girl that is 21 and has three kids and she is doing it on her own.  I could totally hook you up with her contact info if you were interested.

Answer 11

i didnt read your last question but i think it is very noble of you to consider donating your eggs to childless couples. I had a child at 18 and i believe i am a very good mother. I am married and my little girl is well looked after and well loved. I am sure you too are a good mum. Good luck to you and your family kimberley, i am sorry some people can be cruel.

i hope all goes well and if you need any help in the future you will get it without people being cruel and ignorant

good luck and take care

Answer 12

way to go.

you're a very good person.

<3

Answer 13

What does ignart mean?

And what's the question?  You ask if you should give up your child and then you get all cocky and say things like "I am raising my 3 children @ 20 and I don't care what you "ignart" people say!"

So I don't get what you are saying.

Giving a child up for adoption is not ignorant.  Do you even know what ignorant means?

Answer 14

good for you! im adopted and my parents say that i was the greatest gift to them.

Answer 15

I'm not sure how's being ignorant here... if you think God is gonna buy you diapers, formula, food, clothes and shelter... you might be in for a rude awakening.

God doesn't pay rent.

Answer 16

i think it is a good idea. in this way other people's dreams will come true. and they will pray for you during their lives.

Answer 17

You made a very good decision to keep the baby and i think that you are very brave and caring to take care of three babies at age 20 . So keep your head up and never let anyone discourage you from taking care of those three babies. GOD BLESS YOU, and when things get hard and you think you are alone always remember that the man up stairs is always their with you. so take of those kids the best way u can.

Answer 18

I'm not quite sure what all of that short-hand ignorant stuff was all about, but I do know one thing, and that is that giving a child up for adoption is NOT ignorant!

It is a selfless gift to another couple who is desperate to have a child.

More mothers who are not ready for children should consider this a viable option over abortion or trying to raise children for which they are unable to raise as they are still children themselves.

Answer 19

Well I for one am so happy for you and your family, and by the way, congradulations on your new family member!!! I know you will pull through this. Also if you need support during this time, feel free to e-mail me!! There are many of us who will try to recommend any resources we know of in your area!

I am happy to brainstorm with you about this. Like, did you know about angel food ministries? (They give you a HUGE supply of groceries for twenty dollars a month...) any other resources you want some ideas about?

People love to insult spelling errors, and I happen to know, being dyslexic myself, that spelling errors do not necesseraly corrolate with intelligence levels. Just to add... : )

You will do awesome, and yes, if you reach to the spiritual realm for strength, you will find that which is beyond your own, to whatever degree you need it! Hang in there!

(And I DON'T think you were ingnorant for considering adoption either, but I am DELIGHTED you and your family will be spared that kind of pain!!! As rough as parenting is, losing a kid is waaay rougher, and doesn't really come with any reward, unless you are a m*******t and go for that "I'm a martyr for making another couples dreams come true even though I destroyed myself in the process" routine, which is not really so much fun either.

Wait on the egg donation, it's a big decision and you don't want to make that decision while you're pressed for cash. If you really want to do that, be sure you're in the position that you really just want to do it and not for the cash, also you might want to see if there's a way that you could have some amount of contact with the child so that if they have any questions about where they come from, you could answer them.

Egg donation is a comlicated situation for a child too!!

Much love and good wishes!!