Should i give my daughter a purity ring even though shes not going to be 13 for 3 more months?

Question

my daughter that is almost 13 will be starting a new middle school in a few weeks.

the school has been known for some sexual actitivy in the locker rooms and in the stairwells.

my family thinks i should wait til her 13 birthday but i am not so sure.

what should i do??

Answer 1

lol, no offense, but a purity ring won't do a thing. It sounds like you should get your daughter in a different school. To me, a purity ring should be something, with NO coersion from their parents, the daughter should choose for herself when she feels compelled to get it. It is very personal and even though you would like her to have one, it is something so about her and her virginity that only she should choose...

I would tell her, whenever she is READY, that you will take her to the jewelry store of her choosing and let her pick the ring she wants within a given price range...

Ask her if she understands what a purity ring is REALLY about and if not, explain it to her (prior to telling her what is just said about offering to take her, but don't prompt her/force her into getting it)...

Answer 2

Why would a purity ring make a difference?  If you have raised her to respect herself and her body, understand the risks (physical and emotional) of s*x at an early age, and you continue to be an attentive and involved parent,  she isn't going to need a ring to keep her from having s*x in the stairwells.  And if you HAVEN'T done that, and do not continue to be attentive and involved  ... a ring won't keep her from having s*x in the stairwells.  

Answer 3

I would give her the ring, and maybe some condoms JUST IN CASE! I know it sounds terrible to give a young girl condoms, but this could be a very important learning experience for her. I would set her down and give her the ring (before school starts) and explain that you want her to save herself until she is married. I would also use this as an opportunity to talk about s*x, stds, and birth control. This way... if she does happen to make a mistake she will have protection readily available. Tell her that you know her peers are sexually active and that you don't want her to give in under pressure like other girls have. Let her know that if a man really loves her he will wait for her until they are married. I hope this helps!

Answer 4

Give it whenever you want to.  But be sure you are also going to be doing things like chaperoning her dates and so on when she's old enough to date.

Answer 5

don't give her the ring in most case that just makes guys want to go after her more.

best thing is to tell her everything about s*x, the good, the bad, the ugly, the pro , the cons, and everything else.

talk to her like an adult and answer and questions she might have

don't just tell not to have s*x explain why go in to detail. use books.

here this site will help you:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-...

Answer 6

Im sorry but you can give her the ring at anytime

i dont think it will make much of a difference.

When the time comes shes going to make her own decision.

With or with out the ring she will make her own choice

and truthfully I dont think the ring will make a difference

on her decision. Im sorry, and im not being mean in any way.

Answer 7

Sadly, kids start sexual behavior before 13.  13 is not a magic birthday just because they are now considered teens.

Give it to her and talk to her as soon as possible.  I think it's a wonderful idea.  

Answer 8

Hate to say it, but your daughter will have s*x with or without the silly ring. I know you mean well and the concept is good, but the most important thing is talking to her openly and honestly about s*x. You do not want her to feel shameful about s*x and you do not want to make her afraid of it either... that will only lead to sexual hangups as an adult.

Let her know that s*x is serious and s*x before marriage (or not in a committed, healthy relationship at a healthy age, could be dangerous.)

The ring means nothing if you are not communicating. It is not a magic chastity belt and it will NOT keep her pure. Just talk with her and keep talking with her and let her know how much you love her.

You know her better than extended family, so you make the final call. She will keep your words and advice in the back of her head... even when you think she wants nothing to do with you.

Answer 9

Sure you can give her the ring but that is not gonna keep her pure no matter how much you want her to be. Open communication is the best way to prepare her for the real world and s*x. Talk to her openly let her know the real dangers of s*x, find out what she already knows, explain to her about std's and bad reputations. Purity rings are a real good thought but you have to understand that she might be wearing it for you to believe that she's still a virgin. I think talking to her will be the best process to keep her pure until she's ready.