Should i give my daughter my last name or Her dad's?

Question

Me and her dad dated for a little over a year and we aren't together anymore because of his lies. Well he wants to be involved but he doesn't want anyone too know its his daughter, cause he has a wife and three kids but he wants her to have his last name and not mine. I think she should have my last name since i am the one who will be raising her. Please don't call me a homewrecker since i had no idea he was married until about a month ago and as soon as i found out he was married i broke up with him. The name we have choose is Kylen Danielle Reese Lennox (my last name) or Kylen Danielle Reese Fergus (his) . I think my last name it flows better with.

Answer 1

If he doesn't want anyone to know then why would he demand the baby have his last name.  In the end, you will be raising your daughter and it is just simpler if the two of you have the same last name.  That way there will be fewer questions.  Is it possible to add his name as a middle name instead? This way at least it is there.

Best of luck

Answer 2

Your last name.  You can always have him on the birth certificate.  It will make life less complicated later on.

Answer 3

urs  

Answer 4

Use yours since honestly there is no guarantees he will be a part of her life at all.

Answer 5

no keep yours he is an a** and doesnt deserve any thing. if you give her his you better be demanding some child support and be a strong woman.  

Answer 6

You're the mom, you're the primary person in her life, she's living with you, you fully acknowledge her, and you will always be there for her.  It's a no brainer.  She's a Lennox.

Answer 7

keep her name the way it is! its a beautiful name, fergus sounds like fungus.... and he doesn't deserve it, besides, what if things dont work out with thier relationship (father daughter) then she will most likey be confused and ask question... i dunno ur situation w/ that though

Answer 8

u should use which ever name has the larger positive connotations, ie. the name of the family which is more wealthy or has a deeper heritage

Answer 9

Who is listed on the birth certificate?

If his name is listed, I'd give your child his last name--Has NOTHING to do with 'flowing' better....has everything to do with whether or not you're going to get child support from him, along with other legal issues.  

If he's not listed and you know there's no way you'll get any help from him, then name her whatever you want.  

So sorry your child has a jerk for a father.  

Answer 10

If you had no knowledge of his marriage, then you are not a homewrecker, he is.

I think the child should definitely have your last name. Especially since he doesn't want involvement with your daughter. You are the one that will be there for her throughout her childhood. Besides, your name sounds better.

Answer 11

lennox is so much better ur right. however, my question is if he will really help out w ur baby or not. he has 3 already and a wife to take care of and man that is a lotta responsibility. i hope u are ready for him to be missing when u need the help. good luck sweetheart.  

Answer 12

lennox is better :] if he doesn't even want anyone to know about the kid ..?? then why should you give him the satisfaction of the child having his last name :P

Answer 13

Yours. You've already provided all the reasons why you should give her your last name and not his.

Answer 14

your last name

if he doesn't agree with it threaten him with his wife

Answer 15

Put it with your last name, or you can hyphen it with Fergus - Lennox :)

But i think the wife should know what is going on too.  

Answer 16

Give her your last name, if he ends up not being involved in her life then you will probably be unhappy with her having his last name.  If he doesn't want anyone to know that she is his child, then he doesn't deserve her having his last name.

Good luck

Answer 17

your name and no other way around. That guy is a messed and it isn't really his daughter, its your.

your kid will grow up wondering where she got her last name from..

Answer 18

If i had to pick i would pick your last name. I just think it sounds better and would be a cuter name for her to have. Good luck!

Answer 19

I think that you should give her yours. Why let a man carry his name on when he can't except that it is his daughter. If he wants to "hide" her then he has no right to ask that she have his name. That is very selfish to you and your daughter. I think she should have you name. He should understand why you chose your name over his. I am sorry that you have to go through this. good luck

Answer 20

Your last name.

He doesn't want anyone to know it's his kid...'nuff said. Please keep your kid away from that joke of a man.

Answer 21

Yours.

Answer 22

I'd go with your name for the sheer fact that he isn't involved and so why should he be honoured with that request? He's not going to be helping you right? I had this same thing happen with my baby's father, he does want to be involved so they have my last name:)

Answer 23

If he isn't really going to be in her life, why would you want to honor him by giving your baby his last name?  He wants the child to have his name, but he doesn't want anyone to know it's his?  Yeah, good thinking on his part.

Give her yours.  He doesn't deserve it.

Answer 24

Your's

Answer 25

If he wants to be involved and he is going to support her financially she should have his last name.  xox

Answer 26

urs sounds better   his  sounds like fungus     no offense

Answer 27

Well since you arent together yours

And your right it does flow better!

Answer 28

i would give your daughter your last name if you guys arent going to be together

Answer 29

Give her your last name. He doesnt want people to know the baby is his so dont bother with him. He is an @$$ and its not your fault he is a cheating piece of c**p. (and his last name does suck!! yours sounds WAY better)

Answer 30

Yours,definitely!!!!