Should i give up my dream??

Question

i come from a traditional chinese family where almost every parent wants their kid to be a doctor or lawyer and stuff. I recently got hooked on being a chef. i tried asking my mum and i got 2 hours of scolding. She said that I'm still so young and chances are that my ambition will change. So am i suppose to let it go??

Answer 1

Hold your dream if you are truly passionate about it; you could also compromise by training for another profession while your family supports you & your cooking skills can still be gained in spare time or later on, that way you will have two good choices at least.

The main thing is that you will be happy in your working life.  

Answer 2

you need to follow your dreams.  you can not always make others happy.  you have to live the life you choose,not them.  if you do what they want,that means you have no mind of your own and you will be miserable...  follow your heart,be a chef and prove to them you made the right coice,even if was not there choice....

Answer 3

NO. NO. NO. NEVA LET GO.. ur parents cant rule ur life, u prob will chang ur mind later but at least u can say u tried it! or it might b ur calling! who knows? do what makes u happy and hopefully it will make them happy down the track.  

Answer 4

Nope.  Keep your dream.  Buy books about Chefs and cooking.  Watch the cooking shows.  Check out culinary sschools, even if you're to young to go yet.  Find out what's required in schooling, on the job training, experience, etc. to become a chef.  All chefs start at the bottom.  Prepare yourself mentally for that.

If your mum is right, your ambition will change and then maybe you'll be a doctor or lawyer.

If you're right, you've kept the dream alive by taking action.

Answer 5

no one likes to go to the doctor and let him/her tell you how sick you are or some. no one wants to go to court with his lawyer,, and that's just what doctors and lawyers do hehe almost but everyone loves to go to a nice restaurant and eat good food and its not bad when someones gives your food a compliment so GO FOR YOUR DREAM

Answer 6

Before I even knew what your question was, My answer was never give up on your dream. Chefs make very good money and are part of an honorable profession. Please never give up on something you want to do. I know little of your culture, but from what I understand, the parents kind of pre arrange what you are supposed to do with your life. While I don't advocate arguing with your parents, when you become an adult (if you are not) you can make your own decisions . Please do not give up on your dream. Tell your parents that you want to be the best possible chef that the world has. Your dedication should inspire them.

Good luck.  

Answer 7

go for your dream

you will be happy you did

Answer 8

Never give up your dream.  We have a podiatrist in a nearby town that always wanted to own a restaurant, and now he does!  Never give up, never let someone else live their life through yours.  Best of everything to you!

Answer 9

NO!! Never give up! Pursue whatever dream you want because, when it comes down to it, it's your life and you should do what makes you happy.

Of course, every parent wants their child to be successful and have a good career with a guaranteed salary - but not everyone can be a hot-shot lawyer, right?

Your mum only scolded you because she cares about your future and wants you to have a steady career.

But I don't think I could ever succeed in something I'm not passionate about.

Even so, you said you got hooked on it recently - just keep your options open, because I'm 14 and my future career changes like the wind.

Anyways, hope this helped

Toodles!

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Answer 10

No. Leave home ASAP. Their love for you is conditional on your doing exactly what they want for you in life, and not for you to discover who you are and your values.

There is a Chinese American Movie starring Sandra Oh about her family experience and father's rejection for similar but family related reasons.

They want to be able to tell everyone you are a doctor, and the money your earn is huge. It is an ego based mental Trip of their creation, a  mind set also common to many other ethnicity's. Forget mom's scolding....tell her although you appreciate her input, you will indeed walk your own path, and do it with hard work, honor and pride, even though she seems not to be proud of you unless you live out HER Dreams. If she punished you, tell her that as soon as you can, you will leave them forever unless they respect you as an individual. Tell mom she needs professional counseling for mental illness for that is what it is.

I had a similar pr oboe,m and I am of Jewish decent who always wanted little to do with organized religion, or my dad's desire that I be an engineer. I had no interest in either. Mom was furiious and threw glasses and knives when I married a Christian...I have tuned out ethical and Happy but not rich person monetarily, and have had to eliminate my parents who never stopped attacking me as a person despite my urging.

I have never been happier letting them go as an adult, because they in essence, were  abusers.

Answer 11

You are part of a new generation, and your family will have to accept that. Who knows? You could become a world class chef and make as much as a doctor without all that nasty on call work.

Answer 12

First try to work hard to be a doctor or lawyer.

If it is not possible You gave your ideas to mother because mother has soft heart when she realize you not become a doctor / lawyer YOur mind is towards to Chef so May both your mother and father except your request.