Should i go back to get closure?

Question

I was close friends until we got physical. We didn't have s*x but we just fooled around. It was a mistake and I felt guilty about it.

However he never called me after that and it seemed like he was distancing himself from me. I was devastated and hurt. I understand because he is married and he was doing the right thing. I cried my eyes. I knew it was for the best.The problem is,i have unaswered questions running in my head.I want to go back for the last time and ask him why he stopped calling me.

Unfortunately I still miss our friendship. Tomorrow I am going in the west end of the city to visit my aunt so I was thinking to take one of his busses that he drives to just say hi and tell him how much I missed our friendship. He is a bus driver and I know his schedule.

So should I just go to say hi since I haven’t spoke to him in a week?

I jsut want to have closure and move on

Answer 1

Leave him alone.

You don't need closure you just want to see if you can get him interested again.

Answer 2

There is no closure by going back.  You'll be disappointed by what happens if you do.  What do you think he'll do to make you feel better?

Best thing is to just accept what was, what happened, and what is now.  Move on.

Answer 3

You don't want closure you just said you know the man hasn't called you because he is married. You just want to see him so you can tempt him. You are begging to get used again. You need to fight your demons.

Answer 4

Forgetaboutit!  He's married.  Case closed.

Answer 5

Maybe he kept his distance because he realized it was a mistake to carry on with you, when he was married.

You should admire him for this.

You should forget about him and respect his wife.

There are plenty of single men looking for relationships.

Leave the married ones, to their wives.

Answer 6

Closure happens inside of you not by going back to see what is still there.   why would you torture yourself, read its called a break up because it is broken--trust me you won't go back but you will be able to walk away with your head held high.

Answer 7

The man is married he had know buisness calling you to begin with. You should have more respect for yourself than to allow a married man to USE you for anything from s*x....to conversation...He has a legally binding contract with someone else and you should not involve yourself in his marriage.   Do yourself a favor and find someone unattached and fool around with him...Imagine if that was your husband and a girl wanted to know why?

Answer 8

NO....

There are two reasons he is not calling.  One he went back to his wife.  Two is he is seeing yet again someone else.  Either way it is already time for you to move on.  Just let it go.  A confrontaion will just be painful, ugly, and serve no real purpose.

Answer 9

What is so hard about accepting the word NO post repost its all the same! NO NO NO

Answer 10

i think you should let sleeping dogs lie.

Answer 11

You are a fool who is fooling yourself.

YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS WITH THIS MAN and dont give me that "friends" b.s.

are you friends with his WIFE TOO??? cus anytime i have a "good friend" who is a "he" and married i am also friendly with his wife!!

FIND YOUR OWN MAN...women like you are ONE of the reasons there are so many divorces and you should be ashamed of yourself!!

Answer 12

There ARE no unanswered questions.In short it is OVER,regardless of WHY, he chose it to be over and you are fixing to stir upa hornets nest.

Leave him alone.

Here is your closure.It is OVER!

Hurt heal and MOVE On.

Answer 13

Since it bothers you this bad I say yes.  However I believe you go back for a relationship, not closure.

Answer 14

You need to move on, because he is married

Answer 15

No, Your not after closure.. you have closure he is staying with his wife.. My advice you sould just move on also... And stay away from Married men.

Answer 16

stay away.  he is married.

Answer 17

I think it would be best if you just left well enough alone. He is MARRIED, that is why he stopped calling you...because he knows that if your friendship (or whatever you call it) is to continue, he could lose much more than you as a friend.

He is trying to do the right thing, or it sounds like he is by the way you wrote your question, so if I were you I would just let him be and not see him.

Move on with your life. Life is too short to get hung up on past issues.

Answer 18

He is married stay away!!!! You don't need closure you said he was just a friend...come on now what ur trying to do is countinue it, right? Shame on  you, karma is a b*&ch!