Should i go .....................??

Question

I was close friends until we got physical. We didn't have s*x but we just fooled around. It was a mistake and I felt guilty about it.

However he never called me after that and it seemed like he was distancing himself from me. I was devastated and hurt. I understand because he is married and he was doing the right thing. I cried my eyes. I knew it was for the best.

Unfortunately I still miss our friendship. Tomorrow I am going in the west end of the city to visit my aunt so I was thinking to take one of his busses that he drives to just say hi and tell him how much I missed our friendship. He is a bus driver and I know his schedule.

So should I just go to say hi since I haven’t spoke to him in 1 month?

I just want to say hi

Answer 1

Why don't you say goodbye to being an unpaid w***e and say hi to being a real woman? Has that ever crossed your mind?

Answer 2

The reason that he is becoming distant is because he knows that he is married and that the feelings he had for you were growing past friendship. If you are a true "FRIEND" to him you will respect his wishes. It is hard for a man to walk away from someone he wants but this man did. Allow him to be a good man and let him go. If he feels that you can be friends he will contact you again but on his own terms. Walk away and put your feelings to the side. He is trying to do the right thing you going to see him will only put more stress on him. Let Go.

Answer 3

by asking this question i believe you already know the answer...no you shouldn't go say "hi"...honestly ask yourself, what is it that you truly want?

you guys crossed a boundary that never should have been crossed and now paying the price. you say you understand, well if you truly understand then you would not re-establish any connection with him.

by him not contacting you afterwards seems to me that he really values his marriage and doesn't want to bring any further temptation in to damage things with his wife. also if you decide to contact him it wont be the same.

unfortunately you guys made a mistake that has cost you your friendship...i know its hard but you are going to have the chalk this one up as a lost and find a new friend.

where there are choices there are consequences behind them...  

Answer 4

No. You should leave the man alone.  He's married.  You already know the answer to your question.  If you already fooled around, why would you want to keep putting him in that situation causing him to cheat on his wife with his mind, heart and eyes?  He's staying away for a reason.  Not to be mean to you but to keep from cheating on his wife.  I know its hard to let go of friendships but if the friendship is going to possibly cause someone to cheat or be unfaithful, it's not healthy and it need to no longer exist.  

Answer 5

NO NO NOPE no girl the man realized that he did something wrong and staying away means he loves his wife and he probably feeling pretty d**n guilty and miserable right now, don't say hi don't say bye just don't get another bus a train an airplane swim if you have to respect the man decision find another friend one who isn't married..

Answer 6

Dont go!, I kow that it hurts but you have to let go. If he really wanted something with you he would have looked for you.

It is never the same and you might leave with a sour experience. Just enjoy the good memories that you have. Hopefully there will be someone soon that will fill that void left by him.

Answer 7

No, do what you know is right and leave well enough alone.  

Maturity is in not giving in to more basal instincts and desires because we understand larger concepts such as consequences and also have consideration for others.

If he's any man at all he feels bad and wants to put the episode behind him.  You will do him no justice to pop up in his face again.  And for what reason? To try to alleviate your own pain?

You need to think hard about what this man is representing to your deeper mind that is causing you to pull so much at it.  What did you get out of the friendship that you miss? How can you find new friends? Were you especially lonely? How can you cure this loneliness in a healthy and mature way?

The platonic friendship you had with him has been tainted and is gone, swept away by something that caused shame and fear on both of your parts and for good reason.

Leave it be, leave him be and move forward.