Should i go to his wedding?

Question

s***w up as a father and all of that nonsense. He recently called me and said his girlfriend is pregnant and he is getting married in a month or 2 and wants me to be his best man. Should i go and show him I am the bigger person or should i just kinda say bugger off and not go? He and i where very close friends and his family aren't supporting his marriage to his girlfriend. If you could give me some serious advice I would greatly appreciate it.

Answer 1

If someone shows you that much respect to ask you to be his best man, it would be such a shame to turn that down. I think that you should go, leave the past behind, support your father. He really needs it on such a big day.

Answer 2

if you really don't want to be there, don't go. but don't not go just to spite him.

Answer 3

If you know who your daddy was then he can't be that bad. Maybe you'll get lucky...Go on!

Answer 4

As you said it's a friend you really should go and support him.

If he really wants it then think about it and do your move you should be there imo. ^_^

Answer 5

Without more detail its hard to say yes or no.  If you were very close friends and he did not do anything towards you personally, then there is no reason not to be his best man.  You should definately be there for him.

Answer 6

Well I would say be the bigger man. I am also a very forgiving person though. If his family is not supporting him he is obviously looking to you for support. That means he thinks of you as an important part in his life. Represent what you think is good in a man and act it out in life and hopefully he (and others) will see how a man should act and try to resemble what he sees is good and honorable in you.

Answer 7

I think that your father really needs you and would appreciate if you supported him.  People don't always make the right decisions in their lives but family is family and you should try to support him and be the bigger person.

Answer 8

Obviously you don't feel close to him

"s***w up as a father and all of that nonsense"

so I would say if your heart isn't in it then it would be better not going.  

Answer 9

You said you were very close, but don't say if you're close now.  That closeness would make a lot of difference in if you decide to be best man or if you decline.  It sounds from here as if he called you after a long period of not talking.

The main purpose for the Best Man (or anyone in the bridal party) is to be a source of support for the couple both during the engagement and into the marriage.  Your decision should be made based on if you really feel you can support him in this.  If you can support his decision, then be his best man.  If you can't, then respectfully decline the offer.

Good luck.

Answer 10

This is a hard one. I'd agree to go, it might be his way of trying to get back into your life and make things right. However, I'd be very careful not to get involved in any powerplays invoked by him or his family. (You specifically said "his" and not "yours" so I'm not sure what's going on there.) I'd go, smile, be happy and helpful, and try to stay as neutrual as possible.

Good luck!

Answer 11

You should go and be there for him, it dosent sound like anyone else is.

Answer 12

I think that you should just suck it up and go it sounds like he needs you since he got no one else.