Should i go to the wedding?

Question

my sister is marrying my ex best friend we stop being best friends because she told him to stop calling me and he did. we have talk but she don't know. she caused problems with my husband and i. i still talk to her because she is my sister but we are not close like before should i go to the wedding? my husband said no.

Answer 1

She is family, so yes but wether or no you stay for the reception is a different story. I understand that you and this guy were friends, but if you were JUST FRIENDs, then it shouldnt matter. At one point you went through everything and more with this guy and now hes taking care of your sister. Id pay my respects and go anyways. just think of it... did she go to your wedding because of who you married or because it was her sisters wedding? Good Luck

Answer 2

Go.  If you don't go you will be escalating the feud to a point that you might not be able to get across the rift this causes.  It is a shame to loose a sister over a man.

Answer 3

For your friend I would be there!  Even if you do not support the marriage you should support them both.  Make an appearence and leave when you've had enough

Answer 4

Well, I know the situations are different (mine and yours) but I regret not going to one of my best friend's weddings. I had good reason too...see we are from 2 small towns and she was marrying my ex fiance's best friend. My current boyfriend's ex girlfriend was the maid of honor and my ex fiance was the best man. Yeah...well there was some drama that the maid of honor started w/me about my current boyfriend and long story short neither my b/f or I went to the wedding. However, that was about 3 years ago and looking back it was silly not to go. You'll regret it if you don't. You dont' have to associate w/the groom and you don't even have to stay for the reception. Just be there for your sis...

Answer 5

Go.  Be the bigger person.  In the future when things are better between you and your sister you will regret not going.

Remember the song, Sisters?

Lord help the mister that comes between me and my sister and lord help the sister that comes between me and my man.

Leave her husband and your husband out of it and be good to each other.

Answer 6

Despite what she has done, she is still your sister. You should go to be supportive of your family overall.

Besides, imagine being your parents trying to explain why you aren't at your own siblings wedding.

Whether you agree with her choices or not is not the issue. It is a wedding and you owe it to your family (who is most likely throwing it) to show up. Maybe just don't stay at the reception afterwords the whole time.

Also, if your husband and you attend it will show how united you are even though your sister tried to throw a monkey wrench into your happy matrimony.

Due the mature thing. go to the wedding.

Answer 7

go with your gut...i think if it were me i would go because i love my sister and wish the best for her no matter what.

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Answer 8

I'm answering strictly from my POV.

One of my best friends got married to this guy that I thought was a total sleezeball. He and I got into a huge argument but she and I remained friends.  She invited me to the wedding and I decided not to go.

To this day, I regret that decision.  I should have went and it was very inconsiderate, immature, and selfish of me not to.

This isn't about your drama with the ex best friend, or the drama with your sister.  This is about her special day and celebrating with the people she loves.  If that's not a good enough reason to motivate you to go, then that's your decision.  But ask yourself if you would really be willing to deal with the possible regret/guilt by not goin.

Answer 9

she is your sister, and hopefully you can work things out...go and support her in this wedding.

Answer 10

in every relationship that goes bad, there are opportunities to set things right. this could be one of those opportunities, the question is: do you want to set it right? i believe you do, or you wouldn't even consider going at all.

while your sister has wronged you in the past, going to her wedding could be a gesture from you that you are ready to begin moving on. it won't solve everything, but it might get the ball rolling. she will see that you care for her, and this might open some doors.

and in the end, if you two do work things out, and you didn't go to her wedding, it might be something you will regret missing.

Answer 11

You need to go to the wedding.  She is your sister.  And most likely interaction would be limited since a good bride and groom are usually too busy entertaining everyone.  Also, if you do not go that may raise questions about why you are not there and how rude it was that you miss your own sister's wedding.