Should i have more information?

Question

My mom has given me 2 letters and 4 photos of my real mom and sisters a while ago but when i asked her for more information that she has she said there wasnt any. But ive been in her room and seen all the other stuff shes got, but i cant tell her that because she has a lock on her room and i picked it while she was out to find stuff. What can i do? And should i have the right to more information?

Thanks,

Lucy

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Answer 1

maybe she feels like your too young? or not 100% comfortable in your guys relationship? maybe you two should try making a better relationship for the two of you  and then she will tell you more.

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Answer 2

There could be a reason WHY she is hiding the information.You shouldn't assume and you shouldn't snoop!

Answer 3

Well, approximately how old are you? An adolescent? A mid-teen? A young adult in her twenties?

It really depends. There's not enough background information here to give you a solid piece of advice.

Have you spoken to your mom about your adoption? Have you discussed her feelings about your adoption and towards your biological family at all?

ETA: Wow, you're only 15. That's a bit young to have searched (and found?). Not saying you shouldn't, it's just very rare for an adoptee at this age to search.

Does your mom know anything about your bio mother? Have you spoken to her and maybe gently prodded the issue (Eg. "Mom, I was just wondering if you knew what kind of person my bio mother was and if you know of a way to get more information. If you have anything else, I would really like to see it.")

Keep in mind that she may not tell you because of her own insecurity or because she fears for your safety as well. The reason that it's a good idea to ask that question is to get an impression of what she thinks or feels. Otherwise it's just going to be another emotional obstacle and will get worse if you do contact your bio mother.

Does your mom speak about your bio mother at all? Does she say anything about her? She may feel you're "safer" with her, but you're 15 and not an infant anymore - I think it might be best to start looking for the truth, even if it's not the truth you OR she wanted to hear.

Answer 4

Maybe she is hiding this additional information from you because she is protecting you.  Obviously she knows more than you and might know what kind of person your biological mother is.  She might feel that it's best that you don't know anymore at this time.