Should i help my inlaws?

Question

ok well its a long story but im mother inlaw and sister inlaw do not have a good track record. They have hurt me and my husband in the past but when my 2nd daughter was born early this year i decided to give them a second chance.

They have recently moved away from the town they have been in for like over 14 years they moved to a smaller town and only now figured that it was not the best move as there is no jobs in this town. My mother inlaw cannot get the pension coz she moved to a town with less employent and the gov wont give her any cash for 26 weeks so she is living off my sister inlaw that is on single mothers pension. If my mother inlaw does not get a job in the next couple of weeks they are both screwed and my mother inlaw will end up bringing down my sister inlaw with her. Yes they did not think about things very much when they moved they screwed up and i see them both living on the streets in a couple months . I live 2.5hrs away in the city do i help them out and offer to take them in until they get on there feet coz they are family even though they have not been great to me in the past or do i just let them fall in a big heap -should i have the attitude not my problem or do u help family no matter what. Do I risk my happy little home to help (it could back fire in my face)

Answer 1

Don't say "hey if you can't get a job in a few weeks, you can move here" cause then she might not worry too much about getting a job. Only offer if she doesn't get a job and they are desperate to have somewhere to live. Their stupidity isn't your problem, since they have been so mean to you, unless it involves them being homeless or something, then you should help.

If they do move in with you and disrespect you in your own home, they by all means tell them to leave immediately. You're not obligated to be treated like c**p in your own house.  

Answer 2

Dear Helper:

I would advise that you not get involved.  "Frick and Frack" made the choice to leave.  "Frack" has a baby and still made the ill choice to move away--these are not adults! These are baby's!  Stop bailing relatives out, people have to learn that when you make a choice without thinking it through, problems are bound to occur.

I would advise both of them when they begin to call you and your hubby (and they will)--that you two are in no position at this time to help.  The economy is tight enough, fuel and food prices are too high to make decisions as if "Clinton" were still in "Office".....

Hold them both accountable!

Best wishes!

Answer 3

If it gets really desperate then offer to take them in, but keep that as a last resort.Especially because you guys have issues.

Try and look at alternate ways of helping them.

They moved.big mistake.

Can't they move back to their old town.

Why did they move in the first place?

Goodluck!