Should i invite my daughters father to the birth of his baby?

Question

i am in a very complicated relationship with my daughters father. he has 4 other kids by 2 different women and it turns out one of them told him i was at a club when i was about 35 weeks pregnant [[absolutely insane first off i was at home sleeping, it was 2:30 in the morning...]] well i am now 38 weeks pregnant and we havent talked since that night when he said he believed her. i have told him i wanted child support and nothing was said to me so i do plan on collecting that but i still really want him there for my baby..she deserves to have a daddy in her life..

should i even bother calling him when im in labor about to have the baby? its going to be next week when i have her and im undecided..

Answer 1

I think you should call him and let him know. He is the father and deserves the chance to make a choice whether to be there or not. I wish the best for you and your baby. :)

Answer 2

haha L chow looks dumb now...

I have a deadbeat baby father too, and i also work full time and can afford daycare. power to us!!

Does he have a relationship with any of his other children? If not, I would just drop him because I dont think he'll start being a father to your baby. Your baby does deserve a father but that doesnt mean it has to be him.

If he does have a good relationship with his other children and you think that you want to be with him and make everything work then I would notify him for the delivery.

Answer 3

if you want call him and ask him what kinda father he wants to be. does he want to be in her life or does he jus want to be a bank. does he want to share moments of her life with her or does he want to only hear about them. dont get upset on the phone at him no matter his answer. if he says i dont know just straight up ask him if he wants to be at the birth. then if he says i dont know say ok talk to you when you figure it out and call me. make sure he knows that the next phone call is on his time.  

Answer 4

If you feel like that's the right choice and want him in you and your babies life than yes. If you don't, then I don't think so. It is a hard choice to make but I believe you will make the right choice.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Oh brother. Another baby mama. I'm so sick of my husband having to work so hard so half his earning can help support your children! Welfare makes the world go round

People like you inspired this song

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EDIT: He has 4 kids by 2 different women (you would make baby mama #3) and you're just now realizing that he's a deadbeat? What can i say other than Birds of A feather flock together

Answer 6

I would tell him you are having the baby, but I wouldn't necessarily invite him into the room if you aren't comfortable with that.  It is still your body, and it is an intimate event that you don't HAVE to share with him.