Should i just lie and tell people what they want to hear?

Question

before you tell me about how wrong it is to lie. before I used to lie to cover stuff up or I would tell people what they wanted to hear. but since Ive been honest ive had more problems than anything. and dont get me wrong, i am careful with how i say things but people still cant handle the truth and they dont like it and ask me why i think this or that.

so my question is should I just go back to lying and telling people what they want to hear? by doing this ive avoided lots of drama and got along with more people better. so is being honest REALLY the best thing for me?

Answer 1

well like me, sometimes i go overboard when i tell someone the truth and sometimes people hate me for that because they think i'm so mean and rude but its the truth. i cant change that fact if they dont accept it then its their problem. im just telling this to them so that they know what is wrong with them and they can try to change if they want to. you cant please everybody and if they are your true friends they will accept your comments because your just telling them these stuff because you care about them. like me, i want my friends to tell me honestly if sometimes im being such a ***** and if its not true so why get affected? i mean, your friends know their limitations and capabilities and your just reminding them of that things. maybe just try to find the right timing and just dont go overboard.

Answer 2

the same happening with me...

Answer 3

NO! .... [ :D yes]

Answer 4

Why are you so eager to please people who clearly don't get you? You're entitled to your views, and have the right to express them. Why bother with lying? Eventually, the scaffold of lies you've told are going to be undermined by people speaking the truth, and it's all going to come crashing down. Then you're going to be on the defensive when people ask you why you've been telling lies. You're going to say, I did it to please them, etc., and since you're the accused, you're going to be fighting an uphill battle because people will assume that you're just a pathological liar and you're making excuses to deflect allegations.

The best stance to take is to just tell the truth. If the people you're talking about truly love you or value your friendship, they'll accept you for who you are. If they can't accept you for you, then they're not really your friends, are they?

Answer 5

Honesty is the best policy. However, sometimes you just have to know when to speak and when not to speak. By reason of, sometimes some people don't like to hear the truth no matter how right you are or how delicate you put it.

Thanks for asking.

Answer 6

Being honest is the best thing you can do, just don't be mean.

For example if someone asks "Do you like my hair?" don't tell them they look like a pathetic poodle that's been dragged upside down through a series of badly neglected hedges, just be delicate.

People do admire honesty, believe me. If they don't then f**k 'em.

Answer 7

If people ask for your opinion, for example, you should ask them if they want your HONEST opinion. Tell them that you aren't going to lie or sugar-coat anything just to make them feel good (or better) about something.

But here's a question for you. You say you got along with more people when you lied to them. Is that more important to you than how YOU feel about yourself? I imagine this is bothering you or you wouldn't have posted. Honesty is the best thing for everybody. Just understand that most people will likely see your honesty as criticism.

If, however, you can sincerely say you have no problem with lying to people, then you have merely wasted your time and ours with this question in the first place.

Answer 8

Maybe you can practice being more nuanced in what you tell people. and maybe you need to define what you mean by lying.

Sometimes its better to pack the truth in a wrapping as in 'a convieniant truth' and I don't think this has to be a fib.  

Answer 9

Yes, sometimes it's good to lie.

Answer 10

Tell them what they want to hear to an extent, like if they ask "do I look fat in this dress?" just say "of course not". With bigger issues try to be truthful without being too harsh.

Answer 11

dont say anything- it must be a conspiracy to make u go mad

Answer 12

I don't think it cool to lie at all...there are ways to be true to yourself and those around you, even though when you told the truth drama was created in leaps and bounds...what do you think will happen when the truth of whatever matter that you lied about eventually surfaces and makes you appear an *** to your peers and those whom you come in contact with. You claim you had been careful with the way you worded the truth spoken by you, well I don't think you gave tactfulness a second thought, and I doubt that tone of voice and carefully chosen words were used in your conversations that later had a back lash of drama for and around you.Tiny lies have a way of snowballing on you and down the way get huge rolling out of control...you don't see it now...but this practice of yours and the untruths you tell WILL bite back Wow, you know what you could have declined to answer the questions that were potential drama starters, by pleading the 5th.The solution to what you say happens when you speak the truth is definitely NOT becoming the town liar, this ain't good, it kind of almost sounds pathetic and entirely stupid....Some would wonder what kind of moron would actually think that this was a cool thing to do...C'mon you are not a moron..so why on earth would you demean a part of your own integrity.....Honesty is  still yet the best policy......You are entitled to feel the way you feel and I suppose you have your reasons....in the end you are gonna do whatever you feel inclined to do our opinions of the readers and responders won't be of any importance to you unless of course responses write back what you want to hear, right....