Should i keep on trying or is it a lost cause?

Question

so my best friend moved outta state 2 years ago, and we've been still really close. i went over her house when she had her party and i felt like i didnt belong, which i dont, but she could have introduced me to her friends and kept in mind that i didn't know anyone there and kept me company. she had changed and she wouldn;t admit it to me which made me even more mad because we both knew she was lying. i dont mind her changing i just want her to acknowledge that she has changed physically and personality. she is tryign to act like we're in sophmore year when we clearly aren't. her dad got really sick, she called me and i was worried, and she told me that she would call me the next day. she did and after 2 days he was discharged after that day i called to her to see how her dad is doing and she gave me one word answers like i was bohtering her. i've been trying to call her and she hasnt returned my calls in almost 2 weeks. i txted her and figured that maybe she didn't want to talk about her dad until he was better. i asked how her boy friend was doing and she told me she cant talk because she is watching tv. We are going to diff colleges in diff states and i cant help but feel like we're drifting apart to the point of no return.

am i clinging on to someone who now thinks im annoying? Should i stop calling her and should i still try to preserve our friendship or should i just stop and wait for her to call?

Answer 1

I think the best thing you could do is make sure she knows you still want to be her friend. and things do change and it sucks i actually have a friend same situation the only sad thing is i moved like fifteen minutes away. and he dropped out of high and worked. and i stayed in school and am doing sports and i think I'm the one that changed. but good luck with your friend i hope things go well

Answer 2

Wow. I'm really sorry to hear your situation. I think you seem really bright for asking such good questions and being self aware and aware of those around you. This girl has clearly chosen another path. I think you should stop calling and texting. Go off to college, do your best and become the best professional you can. One day she may look back and see what kind of friend she has lost. If she doesn't want to talk because she's watching tv well then that's just pure weirdness. Good luck.

Answer 3

In life we all grow and we may grow in different directions.  People think when you have a friend it will always be the same, it cant be that way, we need to grow in the direction we were meant to go.  With your friend her dad was ill, as a friend i would expect her to call till she was ready or needed someone to talk to, she did have a lot on her mind.  I would still keep in touch, not a daily thing but check up on each other, no pressure.  Don't wait around for her to call it may not happen, live your life and find friends on the same path your on.  

Answer 4

Stop wait for her to call, if she never does and you still feel like contacting her wait till your out of college.

P.S. buy this time I have a feeling you wont want to call her, she sounds petty.

Answer 5

It sounds like, above everything else, this has become unhealthy for you. You shouldn't allow people to treat you this way. Let her go. If she calls/writes, then you can say that you were hurt.

It's sad when relationships are over... and you deserve some time to mourn that loss, but you shouldn't let anyone treat you that way.

Find someone else to hang out with and have some (lots of) fun. Keep your mind off it by hanging out with fun people.