Should i know who i am already?

Question

I'm 20 yrs old and graduated in 06 i took some classes at a community college right after graduating high school then my brother passed away and i dropped out we were very close and it hurt me deeply. i haven't been back to school yet.i don't have any children i work full time at a call center...i don't know who i am or what i want to be please give me some advice. how did you know what you wanted to be? am i too old to still be wondering?

Answer 1

Don't worry.....it's part of life.  I am 37 and it's normal.  But don't let that depress you....

I could be wrong but maybe after your brother passed away, it hit you really hard and was guessing it was something you never expected to happen in your life.  So, maybe that realization has left you feeling depressed w/life and what you want; where you were going.....as maybe you witnessed things can be taken from you at anytime.  That is VERY normal at any age.  

I do have a point and hope this helps:  I recall being around your age and done w/my first college degree thinking "aren't I supposed to know what I want w/my life already??" and weird because I didn't.  When I went back years later for another degree, I was 27 when I finished.  Had an idea at that time what I wanted to do...but here at 35, I am still at a little "loss".

The times I felt really awful, lost and confused I remember asking people older than me if this was "normal" and how was I to know what I wanted in my life (I thought I was supposed to know - and felt abnormal when what I "thought" I wanted my whole life was changing the more I lived and experienced).  The BEST advice I heard was from my ex-boyfriend at the time (who was 5 years older than me and very life smart).....

He told me that you don't ever really know what you want with your life....all you can do is know who you are (values, beliefs) and stay true to them / you.  Also, to keep living and learning what you NEED and what you DON'T like....making decisions moving forward is that much easier if you keep those "facts" in mind.  I didn't really know what he meant at the time.  Now I do.

Sometimes being "lost" is the best place to be....because you're more open and able to really explore who you are and life.  So, don't worry.  And often times what you THINK you want now will change w/age....but your true character, values and beliefs typically don't.  Don't worry - it's very cool when you live and start to realize these things.  You will be okay.  Trust me. :)

As my dad would say "you are still on the road of life; right now, you are just pulled off to the side and re-reading the map of where you are headed....that's actually very smart so you don't get lost later on or have regrets!"

Answer 2

im 22 and im still searching

Answer 3

Not knowing what you want to do gives you power. Don't be afraid of it, use it. Seek out what you enjoy.. and do it. Doing what you love is the best way to figure yourself out. And if you do, figure yourself out that is, please realize that you have achieved nothing. As you, yourself, are ever changing and will have different interests and hobbies as time goes on.

Answer 4

Don't worry, i'm 42 in a few days, and still aimless

Answer 5

I think it is normal to get stuck in life and wonder if you are doing something you really want to do and if not what should you really be doing.

I'm 28 and I'm still in a similar point in my life.

I think a good thing to do is to look at things you like to do and see if there is some way you can make a job out of it (or get a job dealing with it some how)

and if you want you can always go back to school.

Answer 6

Your a baby!! You have time. Go back to school even if its just to take a few general classes.. You'll figure it out in time. For now... have some fun YOU DESERVE IT :)