Should i leave him? My boyfriend is a drunk but i love him.

Question

My partner of three years is recently drinking a lot. hes always drank alot but now hes drunk pretty much every day. last nite i got upset and a row broke out because he was so very drunk. he then banged my head against the wall. i dont no what to do.he was like a monster. but today hes telling me hes sorry and loves me. do i stick by him or leave?

Answer 1

If he loved you, he wouldn't bang your head against the wall.

If he loved you, he wouldn't get drunk a lot.

Unless you want to spend the rest of your life with a drunk abuser, get out NOW, before you have babies to complicate things. People, contrary to popular belief, won't quit drinking for love. If you let him get away with violence this time, he will just keep doing it. Please dump him for God's sake. You should treat yourself better than this!

Answer 2

if he hurt you leave him thats not nice its pure evil

Answer 3

What you have going on here is abuser's remorse. That's the booze talking, he doesn't really care what he does to you as long as you don't stand in the way of his drinking. Do yourself a favor and get out now. It will not get better, he will drinking himself to death but he will destroy your life before he does. No one, and I repeat no one is more selfish than a drunk.  

Answer 4

no i wouldnt do that... youll regret it later on in life get out while you still can.... life experience... my mom goes thru the same thing when my step dad drinks .... if you think you can tolerate it and have that around your kids forever then stay but it does damage inside and out and no one can do anything to help you unless you try to help yourself 1st

Answer 5

If he is hurting you, then it is a given that you should get out. I'm not sure if you two live together. If you do and you don't have the resources to find a place on your own, you can contact a woman's shelter. The only way he's going to get his act together is if he wants to get help. You can't do that, he has to.

Answer 6

Depends if you think this is temporary or not. Is he willing to stop drinking a lot?

If he loved you, he would not hurt you. If he hurts you when he is drunk, then if he loved you, he would not drink.

Answer 7

No! Help him through. Tell him to stop drinking. Of he doesn't, leave him, but you need to help each other, thats what love is.

Answer 8

The abuse will carry on if you don't put a stop to it now. It's never right to hit your partner. You need to get him help or get out. He will only bring you down in confidence and as a person. So you will need to have a talk with him when he's sober and gve him an ultimatum. If he doesn't change his way there is no way the relationship will ever benefit you or survive. Best of luck.

Answer 9

put it short and simple tell him its either you or alcohol hop[e this helps ;)