Should i leave my 13 year old at her friends house while im in hawaii?

Question

... i dont want to tell her that we are going... me and her father .. because i know she would want to go .. so we were planing on leaving her at her friends house for the week and haver her frineds mom take care of her and her friend.. i know shes going to be really mad at me because i always take her on trips with me .. but i want this trip to be special.. should i leave her at her friends house and tell her that we are goign to hawaii or tell her that we are just going to be home with no phone or any way she can comunicate with us because we are going to have a relaxing week ??

Answer 1

I absolutely agree with the above

Answer 2

My parents use to go on vacation without me and my siblings (they still do) and we use to stay with my mom's best friend who is our "aunt". However, we Always knew where they were. Just remember - you're the parents so if you want to go on vacation without your kid then just be upfront and tell her that you and her dad are taking a "parents only" vacation and that she'll be staying with a friend. Lying to her will only make her lose trust in what you say.

Also, you need to give her friends mom a "permission slip" stating that she is caring for your daughter while you and your husband are away and that she has permission to seek medical assistance if need be.

Answer 3

You are a parent of a minor child. You do not go off to Hawaii without her. Seriously? An ocean separating you from your child? And leaving her with a friend? What if something happened? Do you really think her friend`s mom can be responsible?

If you do decide to go in spite of the fact that it is totally irresponsible of you -- you cannot hide it from her forever. Someone will slip up and say something to her or in front of her and then she will find out.

The trip cannot be special with her there? Have you ever heard about suites or connecting rooms? Giving her money to go to the beach or exploring while you and your husband have a long in-room nap?

Thirteen is too young. You cannot do it. Wait five years and go while she is away at college. You still would have to tell her but at least she will be an adult.

Answer 4

your daughter has no reason to be mad at you...unless you lie to her. She'll be mad, sure, but you're the adult, and YOU tell HER what to do, not the other way around. Ask your daughter where she wants to stay and consider it, if you want to be fair.