Should i let him back into my childs life?

Question

im 16 as is he. he has problems and a lot of them. hes got : a drug problem. drinking problem. cutting problem. staving himself. he like to sleep around a lot. and he smokes.

hes in rehab. let me remind u hes only 16

and he wants to be in our one year olds life. should i give him a chance? or no?

Answer 1

No! For the safety of your child...and yourself.

Answer 2

The safety of your baby is number one ALWAYS

Answer 3

Not until he is clean and sober for 1 yr, in some sort of counseling for the cutting and eating disorder, holding a steady job and has a place to live that is suitable for a child to be present in. until then...NO. that kind of substance abuse and mental health issues is only trouble around a child that small.

Answer 4

I'd be cautious.  Maybe supervised visits?

I don't want to nag, but please, dear, go get some birth control.  You have effectively given up your childhood and young adulthood....now you're a mom.  Dating, school, and partying will disappear from your life.  It's sad.  But all you can do is make the best of it, and make sure it doesn't happen again.

Answer 5

wow we have the same name! well, i think he should continue with the rehab, and once you see he has changed , then i think you should give him a chance. Not before he has actually changed. It is not healthy to let him in your lives if he is living that kind of lifestyle, you know? good luck :)

Answer 6

No. Wait until:

No drugs, drinking, cutting, s*x with whomever, passes rehab and you can trust him.

Answer 7

if he continues rehab and shows promise that he is trying to change then start letting him have supervised. Then see where it goes from there. Good luck and i hope it turns out for the best for your child

Answer 8

If you do i would only do it supervised and nothing more than that.

Answer 9

i would say because he is the father and a kid only has one father i would say no but think about the child i would give him a chance to clean his act up no smoking no drugs no achol the whole thing after he cleans him self up gets a job and helps suporting his child then try under your supervision NEVER  let him alone with him

Answer 10

After he gets through rehab and you know for sure that he's changed, then consider letting him into his kid's life. Otherwise, you're only going to hurt you and your child if you allow him to be in the kid's life.

Answer 11

I wouldn't let him see the baby till he gets himself together.  Thats alot of problems and you have enough on your plate being 16 and have a child.  I'd wait till he get straight and shows u that he does deserve to be in this childs life.

Answer 12

this is my opinion i think that no matter how bad the father was that if he is willing to change then give him a chance dont leave him alone with the child right away but do let him in you dont want your child to think you didnt let him try to be with them right. get pics with them together in case he screws up again then they will have pics good luck