Should i let my mom back in my life

Question

okay.when i was young my parents split up.i don't really remember my mom just only flying on a plane with my sister to go visit her.we wouldn't stay long with her maybe a few weeks.well she would hardly call to say hello or see how i was doing.i remember her moving a lot.i didn't even see her for my own graduation,i know she was there because my dad said she was there but as soon as it was over she left.she called me later that night but to see only if i wanted to go over to my aunts house to drink,she didn't even congratulate me.anytime she trys to call me i do answer but its short conversation.i love my mom because she is my mom and my fiancee gets upset at me when i try to deffend her when someone says something bad.i feel i need to because like i said she is my mom.he says i shouldnt feel like i need to be there for her because she wasnt there for me when i needed her the most.i know she is trying her hardest now, she has moved back to town with my little brother and her new boyfriend.but even though she moved back she hardly calls me or trys to see me.she spends a lot more time with my sister and her kids.i feel left out.

Answer 1

I have cut my mom out of my life. I realized she did a bad job raising us girls, (telling us we deserve to be hit), was never there for us (even though I lived with her,  and seems to make my life miserable with all the drama and problems she brings. I did leave the option open for her to be in contact with her grandkids. (which she has chosen not to do.)

Your mom was not there when you needed her. She may be attempting to reconsile now. You might let her contact you, but do not count on her. She sounds more like an occasional friend. Treat her that way.

Count your friends and your close family as your blessings!

Answer 2

You should definitely let your mother back in your life - she deserves it and so do you - move forward and take it one day at a time...

Answer 3

Take your fiancee  to meet your mother. It sounds like your fiancee  is wanting to meet your mother. Well what are you waiting for. Just go over there unannounced.

Answer 4

Don't defend her bad behavior hon.

She is a bad mother.Not really a mother, she just gave birth to you, thats  about it/Yes continue to be polite when she calls, pray for her.

As far as her being the mother you never had, that isn't likely to happen until she is honest with herself, and is willing to take responsibility for what she has done or has not done that should have been done.

She is shacking with her new b/f huh?

What example does that set for her kids?Especially the youngest?

It teaches them it is ok to have s*x outside of marriage and dowhatever you want and that women do NOT need to have a commitment from men in order to have s*x.It teaches her sons to see girls as disposable s*x toys"if it don't work out, I can always get another one" attitude.It teaches girls they will NOT be able to have a guy unless they are willing to have s*x without commitment first.

Let HER contact YOU first.Do no go out of your way to be in her life.