Should i lie to his mother?

Question

my fiance and i have decided to call off the wedding(actually he decided, because i don't want him to have a bachelor party)

anyway, we have to go to his mothers tonight because there was a death in the family. he said I'm going to have to wear my ring because his mother would want to see it. (she never got to see it) I told him i would not wear it because i would not lie to her. he said i should. but i really don't see the point of lying to her .

am i wrong??

Answer 1

You shouldn't even be going unless you plan on marrying this guy. Which, if you don't want him to ever have a bachelor's party, how will you stop it?

Give him the ring back and tell him to show it to his mother himself. When she asks why you aren't there, he can explain to her how he wants to get drunk and get lap dances from naked women the night before he marries you.

Or, you can go and tell her for him. Let him decide.

By the way, I LOVE what Melissa B. said. If he lies to his mother, there is a good chance that he will (if not already) lie to you too).

Answer 2

WOW......I guess he didn't love you.  Calling off the wedding for that.

I can see why he would get really upset because every wedding has a bachelor party.  They don't all have to be dirty.  Maybe you are being a little demanding already and your not even married.  Who knows.

ANYWAYS.....don't wear the ring, unless you are going to work this out.  Its got to come out some time right???

Answer 3

Why are you hanging out together if you called off the wedding? Sounds like you two are immature if you can't communicate about something as small as a bachelor party. Very rude to drop news on the mom when there has been a death in the family. If she hasen't seen the ring I can't imagine you too were engaged long. Just lie. Blow it off for the sake of the family. I'm sure in a few weeks you will work it out and the wedding will be back on. Why hurt the poor woman if you don't have too just because yall are immature? Seriously. Grow up.  

Answer 4

He called off the wedding over a bachelor part that's dumb! Tell his mom the truth!  

Answer 5

No I would just not go.

Sorry but the minute that engagement ended ANY obligation to HIS family ended.

Please, is he going to call the shots your ENTIRE relationship?  

Answer 6

No. Don't wear the ring. If your bf doesn't have the balls to tell his mother that the wedding is off, maybe you should drop his lying butt.

And the whole thing about having to have a bachelor party is just childish rubbish.

Answer 7

Your fiancee called off the wedding because you don't want him to have a bachelor party?

Your (ex) fiancee is a very, very smart man.  He can see the future, and it is very grim with you in his life.

Congratulations to your fiancee.  What a very wise decision.

Answer 8

you don't have to lie, but you don't have to bring the drama to his mama, either!  just wear the d**n ring, you know you're gonna put it back on sooner or later anyway!

Answer 9

Well its probably a good thing he called off the wedding!  How a man treats the women that are close to him in his life is how he will treat you in the future.

He wants to deceive his mother!!!  He must think it ok to lie which means he would lie... or at least not be completely honest with you!

Answer 10

I wouldn't lie to her -- what's the point?  Are you just going to pretend forever that the two of you are going to marry still?  I'm assuming since you're talking about going to his mother's due to death in the family that you're remaining in a relationship but just calling off the wedding?  

I fear your relationship probably won't work out if your fiance doesn't grow up a bit.  My husband didn't have a bachelor party.  Personally, neither of us really believe in bachelor/bachelorette parties.  Everyone says it's your last night as a single, but I disagree -- your last night as a single was the night the two of you became exclusive.  There is no reason for either of you to be going to strip clubs or touching people of the opposite s*x.  He needs to get over it, and if he's going to call off marrying the woman he wants to spend his life with because she doesn't want him to have a party, than he needs a lot of help.  Let him grow up a bit before committing to him -- and tell his mother the truth.

Good luck.

Answer 11

I have to agree with you that you must tell her but telling her in a time of mourning would definitely not be the best idea.  Why don't you wait until a  week or so after the funeral.

Answer 12

it sounds like he doesnt want her to know ur guys business.  i dont blame him i'd probably do the samething.  just wear it. only if u still want to be with him still.  if u dont then dont bother.  why would u want ur mother in law knowing u guys are having probz right now.  all u have to say to her if u dont descide to wear it.  or even if u are wearing it.  u can say the wedding is on hold right now.  make up a lie.  say we have too many things going on. anything. but ur husband is so selfish i cant believe he called off the wedding like a big baby just cuz he cant have a d**n bachelor party. how sad.  thats good i give ur propz cuz girl i'd do the samething.  if hes gonna be a baby call the whole thing off.  s***w that.  trust me girl.  my sister in law's husband went to a strip club after that she totally lost respect for him after that she told me!  and i dont get it why would anyone want to start off their marriage this way anyways you'll always wonder what happened at the bachelor party.  so anywayz i think u should just lie to his mom only if u still want to be with him.  good luck!

Answer 13

Nope....that could be disastrous. Why sink to his level. Tell Mom the wedding is off and the reason why.

Then go find yourself a real man instead of wasting your time dating children.

Answer 14

shes going to find out sooner or later

what it probably is, he knows that if his mother finds out the reason for the wedding be called off, she is most likely going to agree with you that he shouldnt have that party

Answer 15

He still wants to marry you. You just have to stop being bossy. That is his night to have fun before he committs himself to you for the rest of his life. You don't get to tell him what to do. What do you plan on doing for your shower. See that is your business. You two are getting married, so wear the $#%^%^ ring. Don't scare the man away before you even hitch him. Work this out between the two of you, and keep the family out of yalls problems. Unless they are severe.

Answer 16

no never get on the bad side of an in-law

Answer 17

i hope you arent one of those females that are insecure? you need to trust him duh you kinda sound childish!! lol

Answer 18

First off, if he called off the wedding, why are you going to his mother's house anyway.

Secondly, it's probably a good thing that you aren't getting married. Sounds like you have some trust issues and he has some control issues...not a recipe for a good marriage.