Should i listen to my parents or do what i feel is right?

Question

well i'm 15 and i'm starting my exams this year, i have an older sister who's almost 18 and is going to become a nurse when she leaves school, i've always been alot smarter than my sister so my mum and dad always say that i should try and become a doctor or a lawyer when i leave school and i thought thats what i wanted when i was younger but now i don't really think i do. i don't want to do any well paid job, i just want to have fun with my friends until i'm about 30 then get married and settle down with kids and be a good mum, i can understand my parents wanting to make the most of my brains but i don't want to be a person who lives to work rather than works to live, i'm still really confused and people tell me i still have plenty of time but i don't really after the exams i need to decide whether i'm staying at school or going. do my parents know best, should i listen to them? or just do what i want?

Answer 1

Who says you can't have fun and have a job that pays at least well enough to support yourself at the same time? Just go to school, explore your options, and find a career that you love. And yeah, your parents probably do know better than you do.

Answer 2

Due to your parents ideals, I think you have been looking in only 2 directions – being a doctor or being an attorney.   If  you don’t want to do either of these, that’s fine… but there are so many other interesting careers out there that you may enjoy – That would also afford you the ability to pay for your life.  Find something you love and look for a career in that field.

Life happens and you need to be prepared to take care of yourself  (or any future children you may have) financially for the time your parents, boyfriend, husband are not around.  

Will your parents want you living with them until you’re 30, while you’re running with your friends and having fun? (I doubt it)  Living out on your own will cost more then a job at McDonalds pays.

Anyhow.. the best time of your life may be had at college. You meet so many fun, interesting people.  Don’t deprive yourself from that joy!

Answer 3

u want to njoi..thn njoi buddy...

but u think this studyin nd all tht iz very boring hectic and tiresome...

i tell u..this college lyf will b d most meorable part of ur lyf...

nd u'll b happy to share it with ur kids...

m not sayin b a doctor or something... i wud say go for some awesome courses lyk fashion designing..animation... or sum disaster management lyk things..... if u succeed in thm thn its bonus if u dont thn u'll have ur kids of course  

Answer 4

What kind of whacked out plan is that?  Your friends are certainly not gonna hang out waiting to party, they're gonna move on with their lives and start building futures.  You're talking about being a leach until you feel like getting out and making a life.  The world doesn't work that way honey.  No one says you have to be a doctor or a lawyer, there are plenty other careers for you to look at.  Don't let yourself feel limited to what your parents are talking about.  You have no idea how much you miss out on in life by taking the plan you're talking about.  You're young, life is a blast when you make it so.  Start thinking about the career you want and take steps to get to it.  This isn't a competition between you and your sister.

Answer 5

i would say, that in the end you need to do what makes you happy.  But i dont think your plan is very reality intended, i mean, if you have brains, you should use them to your fullest ability, you want to look back on your life and say, "wow, i was so accomplished" you can work and have fun all at the same time.  But like I said, follow your heart, although i think you need to put a little more thought into this.  GOod LUck!

kate

Answer 6

do  what  best  for  you

Answer 7

Listen to your parents, if you make the most of your chances and really try hard now to get a good job, you will have more time to have fun, you will find that you will have to work less when you are older because you have earnt a lot of money when you were younger and you will be able to treat your kids, and go on holidays with friends, and have partys alot more than your average earner, you will wish you listend to ur parents advice. If you have the chance do it! not just for your parents but for what you said about wanting to have fun. I know that money is not everything but it helps an awful lot!  Work hard - play hard.

Answer 8

you have to do what is best for you.  Just don't expect your parents to foot the bill for you partying until you're 30.

FWIW:  most of your friends (unless they are drugged out) won't be partying until they are 30.  They will move on to uni or some trade school and start work.  A good portion of them will most likely be married and starting families before 30.

you can work and enjoy life.  If law or medicine isn't what you are interested in then find something that you enjoy doing.  Talk to your parents.  I wouldn't tell them that you want to party until you're 30 but I would tell them that you are interested in marrying and having a traditional life of a housewife/stay at home mom.  It's important that you talk to your parents about what you want to do and how you want to spend your life.  They are just offering suggestions about what you can try.  Once you get to career choices--you have to start viewing your parents' statements as their opinions and not their orders for you to follow.

Answer 9

the best is do what you feel like doing but at the same time think of what will happen in the future (e.g will you be happy or not,etc)