Should i make him stop, and if so, how?

Question

my son is 15, he still likes to hold hands sometimes, with me and his dad, and whilst im thrilled he's still this close with us i think that he is being to clingy, is he too old, should i make him stop, how should i make him stop or is he okay to carry on holding my hand?

Answer 1

This has to be something to do with the way you have bought him up! No fifteen year old boy just randomly likes to hold hands with his parents...you need to explain to him that although you like the fact he wants to be close to you, its better if he just gives you a hug at home because other children can be cruel and he doesn't want to be a victim of bullying. Im sure he will understand and thank you for saving him embarassment infront of other kids.

Answer 2

I think it's sweet yes most 15 year old's don't even want to touch their parents but why deny your son affection he loves you so what if he still holds your hand my brother is 13 and still holds my mom's hand and hugs her and kisses her. heck I still do and I'm almost 23 years old and I have a 3 year old. one day he is going to have a family of his own and he won't be around as much cherish this time together.

Answer 3

it's sweet, and when he gets a girlfriend she'll love it.

Make sure the hand holding isn't the only thing he is doing that may be a little childish, and if it is don't worry about it and enjoy every moment of it. If there are other area's he doesn't seem up to age level I would work on those.

Answer 4

If he's comfortable with it, it shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 5

No, please don't make him feel rejected by highlighting it to him.  My son was always affectionate and still kisses me as soon as he sees me.  He hugs me when I leave too.  He is 32 now and has a wife and daughter with one on the way but he still has time for his mum.  If he is a gentle and thoughtful boy; just be grateful.

Answer 6

I think it s sweet, and I wouldnt make him stop. He seems like hes being normal socially, with having a girlfriend and everything. I say let him stop on his own.

Answer 7

im 22... i dont hold hands with my mum, but i did until i was a teen! but i do link arms walkking everywhere with her like i would a girlfriend.

I think its lovely, i hope my little boy and girl do the same! its not clingy its effectionate and loving.

Answer 8

well put it this way, if he stopped being affectionate would u be fine with that?  I think it's great that he want to be close to u, it shows he has a strong bond.  Any girl he dates will thing he's amazing.  My boyfriend does anything and everything for his mum, he sometimes sleeps in her bed aswell..I dont consider it weird, I think it's great and proves he's going to be a caring husband and father!

Answer 9

He is who he is let him be

Answer 10

You don't give enough info. to properly form an answer.  Does he have other social interests?  Is he "dating"?  Does he have any form of disability?  You say he's "clingy".  Is his hand holding out of affection or out of a detachment disorder?.. in your opinion.   Please elaborate. Thank you for asking this interesting question!

addendum based on new info:

I would say that he is showing a genuine affection for you and that is nothing bad.  However, it seems it may be making you a bit uncomfortable....which I understand.   Perhaps, you might be more comfortable with him offering his arm for your escort, rather than hand holding.  That would give you the option of saying, "oh, I'm fine son, I can make it, just walk with me" when you feel more comfortable doing so...and those times when you're going up a hill... shoot yeah.. let him pull ya!  This will lead to him understanding when it's appropriate (for you) and when it's not, WITHOUT making him feel like you are rejecting his affection all together.  Hope this helps :D

Answer 11

That is creepy as all h**l. 15??? He is in high school!