Should i move barns??? please answer!!!!?

Question

my friend and i have been having problems the last couple of days.....

the only reason i am thinking of moving is cause my horse is in her back yard and its really awkward when i see her while were fighting cause its such a small barn so theres no place to go where i cant see her.....

here are the other questions i asked and maybe u can see my problem and help me fix it or figure out if i should move...

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkR2Ha9ykbl8hxpJNozvwPnsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080722080327AAyltOR

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Au0qLI4JIt5EUPxHDG5nsm3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080722215930AAoi1r2

thanks in advance for your help i really appreciate it

=)

Answer 1

I would move to a professional barn, where everyone is on an equal footing with no personalities involved.  When you are riding you need all your concentration on your horse, not on wondering where someone else is and what she is doing

Answer 2

i would work things out and try to be very mature about it and if she has enough of a problem with you let her move but why should you move just for someone else

Answer 3

If there is somewhere convenient to move your horse, that would be a good idea.  If not, then go there to see your horse, not her.  Ride with other friends or alone.  Treat this as a place you are boarding your horse, not a friends house where you are boarding your horse.  Sometimes people grow apart and need to go different directions for awhile.  Boarding our horse somewhere else might give your 'friend' enough space so she doesn't write these nasty messages to you.  Good luck.

Answer 4

Lovesick, she's upset and pmsy.  Try to look past how she said things to see why she's upset.

She wanted time alone with her mom.  

That's not unreasonable.  If it were me, I would acknowledge that and apologize for not realizing it (even though I don't know how you could have known, if she didn't tell you) and ask her to work out a signal with you for when you shouldn't hang around.  It may be too late, but it's worth a try.

I agree she's being unreasonable and mean, but if you want to salvage the friendship or keep your horse there, that's what you need to do.

Engaging in email/txt/myspace wars is the worst thing you can do if you want to keep her as a friend.  Face to face is best, or over the phone.  Then, if you can't work it out after a  week or so, it's time to move one.

Answer 5

It sounds to me like you are under the impression you two are best friends but the other girl thinks otherwise.  She has moved on and is no longer wishing to continue her friendship with you.

For the safety of your horse, move out.  Find a new barn.

Do not talk or socialize with the girl that was once your friend.  She is demonstrating she no longer wishes to be your friend.

She did not beat around the bush either, she told you to leave her alone.

Move on to a new barn.

Answer 6

It sounds as if there are no other people boarding there, so she is the only one you have to hang out with when you're there.  You being there whenever you please interferes with her privacy and personal time, but she can't do anything about it because you pay to board there.  So she is getting resentful and it is ruining your friendship.

Never mix business with friendship....things like this tend to happen.

For the sake of your friendship, you may need to move your horse out.  Unless you can just go there and ride and ignore your friend, and not bother her unless she invites you to, this will keep getting worse and you'll end up leaving anyway, but the friendship might not survive.

Answer 7

I would try to figure things out with your friend...I mean, just because you guys are having a spat doesn't mean you just pick up and leave. Can you imagine how bad that would make your friend feel? She's really nice to let your horse stay at her place, and I'm sure you guys will figure it out - moving your horse will only make your friend feel offended and angry. Try to talk it out with her.

Answer 8

If yall are really having problems then move. If it has only been a couple days then I think you are jumping the gun. Give it a bit and try to work things out.

Answer 9

whoa

don't move

forgive and move on

its just drama

if you move you'll kill you friendship

Answer 10

Hi,

  After reading the other ?'s, I think the best thing, is for the

  two of you to stay away from each other for a while. First

  you need to move your horse, right away, or it could

  become a bigger issue. You don't want to make things

  worse, so please do it, before it becomes a legal problem.

  After that avoid any contact, and if she still wants to be a

  friend, let her make the first move. Good luck.

Answer 11

I'd move. That way maybe you could meet new girls, ones who aren't mean b*****s! Also, if you move but stay friends the next time she pulls a hissy fit you don't have to worry about riding your horse. Which should be your joy dude!

:)

Answer 12

Well, I am no expert, but after reading all of your messages, I belive that YOUR FRIEND NEEDS HER SPACE!  She has overtly said so several times.  I really think that you should move your horse.  Too much togetherness time has made your friendship go south really quick.  It seems like you think of her as your best friend, but she might not feel the same.  She says that you are a very close friend but that she has others and wants to spend time with them.  I think that you are getting on her nerves and have possibly worn out your welcome at her house.  Get your stuff and your horse and go elsewhere.  Hopefully, you guys can still come out friends.  Absence makes the heart grow fonder.  It is not healthy to fight all of the time in a friendship--it makes it a hardship.