Should i move to Australia or listen to him?

Question

well, i am figuring out my future and i have decided to stick to canada for right now. i'm only 17 and i live with my family. i plan to get my drivers liscence and a bartending certificate and hopefully a certificate in hotel management then perhaps take a work holiday visa and then perhaps try to move there afterwards if i like it. Thing is that my father doesnt want me to move away at such a young age. by the time i finish school and work for some experience i am going to be old enough... probably 24 or 25 or somewhere along that age.....he thinks it's foolish to move anywhere else. I've always wanted to go to australia and he's more interested in settling here and staying put. he's scared that something will happen to me but thats life. It's dangerous everywhere and i cant hold myself back from travelling because he's scared. i dont know how to convince him that it's going to be allright if i go. i cant even convince him to let me go on a work holiday visa for a year to australia. Should i move after a holiday visa if i like it? or should i just listen to him and stay and enjoy the toronto life? I DONT KNOW ANYMORE. he says that i can only go on a work holiday visa if i live on my own and he'll never talk to me again. i'm mad. He's not supporting me and laughing at what i want to do. It makes me think i'll never do anything, never go anywhere and that it's useless in trying. Hopefully someone who lives in australia could help me. Just tell me if i am thinking clearly. please. someone else other than my family that falsely beleives in me. I need someone who can give me the dirt and dont be afraid of telling me the real truth and hurting my feelings because i need a fresh perspective. if you need any more info just ask.

Answer 1

it is very difficult to immigrate to australia you must be  skilled and experienced in an occupation australia needs,so until you have completed school and have a skilled occupation the only way you can go to australia is as an international student on a student visa.You would have tp pay all your tuition and living expences yourself

so perhaps a working holiday is a good idea to get a feel for australia

Answer 2

Fathers always fret when their little girls talk about moving away. If you are not planning on doing this for 7 or 8 years don't give your father to hard a time about it now. He will come around eventually but you do have a lot of time to convince him. Why not suggest that when it's time for you to put your plan into action you would like it your family came with you for a couple of weeks and have a holiday then they can see where your planning on living and working. Dad's have a hard time of it when their no longer able to help their Daughters they feel useless and not needed, so try to be gentle with him it's normal  

Answer 3

From what you've told us, it seems to me that your father just wants you to slow down and get some life experience before you get too carried away with making long term plans. He doesn't really mean what he says about never talking to you again if you come to Oz on a work holiday visa. He obviously loves you and cares for you, so the last thing he will do is break with you. We parents say things like that sometimes to make our kids stop and think, but we don't mean them.

Tuppenybitz is absolutely correct in saying that Australia is very selective in who is allowed to stay here. Just wanting to live here simply isn't enough. You must have skills that are badly needed here and you need to jump through quite a few difficult hoops to meet all of the requirements for a long term visa. The major hoop is that you must have skills and experience in a required occupation and you won't have those until, as you say, you're well into your 20s. By then, believe me, your father will have long accepted that you're an adult who needs to make her own life. He probably still won't want you to go, but he won't stand in your way either.

At 17, life seems to be passing you by and everything is urgent and one of the more difficult parenting tasks is to try and keep kids' feet on the ground until they have the basics they will need for a good life. We may not like it, but all good parents know that the chicks will eventually leave the nest - we just want them to be ready when they go. That's all your father is trying to do.

I suggest that you finish high school and plan on coming to Oz for a gap year on a working holiday visa before you go back to Canada and start college. My guess is that if your dad knows you're only planning on going for a year, he'll gradually come around to the idea, BUT, you'll need to approach the whole idea very maturely to prove to him that you're adult enough to be OK when you get here. You'll need money for airfares and living expenses (that's an Australian government requirement) and you should get a part time job and start saving like mad. That will show him your commitment and ability to look after yourself.

Thousands of young people come to Australia every year on work holiday visas and they have the time of their lives. Ours is a very safe country, the people are friendly and helpful, there's plenty of work and so many incredible places to see and things to do - it's an experience not to be missed.

Answer 4

i dont know much about visas and all the rest, but i am australian and i can tell you, its a wonderful place :)