Should i postpone my wedding?

Question

i am supposed to get married on April 1 2009 but my father (who was the glue for my family) committed suicide on July 18 2008. I am 20 yrs old and i have been dating my fiance Josh for 3 yrs. My dad was the only one in my family who was excited about my wedding. He was also the father my fiance never had. We never ever thought my dad would commit suicide (not even his therapists thought it) so this is such a tragedy. Should we wait?

Answer 1

No, don't wait.  April 1, 2009 is still a distance away and it may be nice for your family to have something to celebrate.  It is important to get married at the right time instead of letting the relationship just go on and on without being married.

Answer 2

Because he supported your marriage, I don't think your dad would want you to postpone the wedding because of him, do you?? I think he would want you to continue with your life and make the most of it in order to be happy.

Good luck! =)

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think it is too soon for you to start making decisions.  Give yourself time to grieve before you even start thinking about the possibility postponing your wedding.

Answer 4

Sounds as if your father loved you both...do not postpone...if anything, do it in his honor, remembering how much he meant to the 2 of you! God bless you both!

Answer 5

Would your father want you to postpone on his behalf for any reason?  there is still time to plan and I"m sure he wouldn't want to disrupt you wedding.  and you can do it in a tribute to him.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure he will be looking over you on your big day!

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I would not postpone your wedding. You have a little less then a year to rethink the whole thing. I would follow through. I'm sure that your family was/is happy that you are getting married. I wouldn't think for a minute that they are not. Everyone has different ways of feeling things about a wedding.

Keep your chin up

Answer 7

Wow I am so sorry to hear this. I know what you are going thru- my stepdad committed suicide in the garage on Christmas when everyone was waiting for him in the living room. It takes a toll on people.

I would say go for the wedding. Your dad obviously wanted it to happen, and it would be a nice way to start a new chapter in your life. Say a poem about him at the wedding, maybe, as a rememberance. Honour his memory and know he will be looking on you on the wedding day with a smile on his face for your happiness.  

Answer 8

It sounds to me like your father wanted you to get married and cared very much about your fiancé. He would not have wanted you to postpone the wedding.

You still have 3/4 of a year before the wedding and I don't see any reason to put it off.

I'm sorry for your loss and wish you all the best for your wedding and you're life with Josh. Make sure your wedding is something your father would have been proud of.

Answer 9

I would not let my father's suicide stop me from living. It's very sad and selfish that your dad took his own life. I know that it hurts but why allow it to take over your life. Are you seeking counseling? If not I think both of you should make an appointment today. Celebrate the positive parts of your dad's life but do not let it rule your life and decisions. He wouldn't want that for you.

Answer 10

i would say go on, only b/c you said your father was excited about your wedding, he would want you to do it, you can honor your father in so many ways on your wedding day and im sure your dad will be there with you on your wedding day.

im truly sorry you lost your father, my mother commited sucide when i was 8 now even though she has been gone for 14 years, i wish she was here at my wedding, but im honoring her in so many ways at my wedding that it almost will be like she is there!!

good luck and i'm sorry for your loss!

Answer 11

Life goes on, do not postpone the wedding even though your farther past away. I think he would want you to be happy, No matter what, he will be with you in spirit

Answer 12

What would your dad want you to do?  If he was the type of person who would've gotten upset that you didn't get married because of something that he did, then you should go ahead with the wedding.  

I can't help but wonder why he's the only person in your family that was excited though.  Maybe you need to figure that out before you go through with the wedding.

Answer 13

I`m so sorry about your father, but there`re still about 8 more months to go before your wedding.  I think you should carry on with your wedding.  You still have plenty of time in between.  What does your fiance think about it?

Answer 14

So sorry for your lose! My Deepest Sympathy!!

Yes 20 is young for getting married, but 3 years in

a relationship is a good track record.

If you are sure of your love for Josh~go for it!

If you are not 100% sure ~wait!