Should i pull my son out of school and homeschool him now he is in 8th grade and the school he attends sucks?

Question

i homeschooled him before andthe results were excellent. his father on the otherhand is against homeschooling --however he is not taking the time to help him with his school work nor is he doing any thing that show he is there for his son. should i even care about what his father has to say about this. my son is very intelligent however since being in school i have watched him go down hill and it hurts me to see such brilliance be sucked away

Answer 1

Ask your son how he feels about homeschooling, and his school. Since he is in grade 8, this should be something you decide together. It doesn't sound to me as though he is enjoying his current situation. I will have to disagree with the person who said that homeschoolers tend to be shy, and unable to blend in socially. The opposite is actually usually true. Homeschooled kids are usually very well socialized, but moreso with people of all ages than just kids their same age. Homeschooled doesn't mean staying in one's home all the time, never coming into contact with other people. I have chosen to teach my kids at home, but we also go to library groups, church groups, dance classes, friend's houses, all the stuff that "normal" kids do! SURPRISE!! Your son's father doesn't seem to be much of a help. If he is not willing to be a part of your son's education, he should not pass judgement about what you choose to do. In the end, you need to look out for the best interest of your son. Good luck!

Answer 2

u should consider changing his school and see the results.along with that try home schooling also.Try it out it worked for my brother.

Answer 3

i would suggest switching him to a private school where the teaching is typically more personal and the work more challenging. if you homeschool him throughout high school he will miss out on alot of essential aspects of life. socially, home schooled children are not as developed although to the parent they may seem so. they tend to be shyer and back away from new situations regarding their peers simply because they aren't particularly stimulated in that area. personally, i believe that home schooling whild effective educationally, robs a child of  an experience they can only get one play and that is high school. as far as the school he attends now, i do agree that he doesn't belong there. like i said, look in to private schools or schools for the gifted and talented. another option is to wait until high school and look into specialty schools that focus on a particular career path. there are many options available to you and public school isn't the only possibility. try as much as possible to keep your son with his peers and good luck to you and your family!

Answer 4

is there any other schools that r better around your city? Well i think in my opinion u should have him or her swich schools to go to college

Answer 5

I think if your instincts are to homeschool your son then go with that.  Men can have all sorts of reasons to react negatively to homeschooling most of which are pride.  They want their boys to be tough but you are the childs mother so you can always trust your maternal instincts - they will never let you down.  8th grade is an awesome time to get back into homeschooling.  Keep a portfolio so when he finishes you have something to show the tertiary education providers (If he goes onto further study) .  Trust your own values and belief systems and you will know whats right.

Answer 6

It is not a great idea to home-school him at this point.  If he wants to go to college he would be better off going through a "normal" high school.  Can you afford to send him to a private school?  That would be a better option.   Your state probably has an online school available, but this is not best.  He will likely get a better education in a traditional school.  I mean no disrespect, but it seems to me that you may not have the necessary education.  I apologize if that sounds rude, but you asked about what is best for your son and that is my opinion.

*****In response to your updates, I derived the basis of my response from the grammar and spelling issues that are prevalent in your writings.  It had nothing to do with the word "sucks."  Did you want people's real opinion or were you looking for someone to make you feel better about your own opinion?

Answer 7

Do you live with the father? If no and you have full custody, then no, don't worry about his approval. If you are married to his father and living with him, then yes, his opinion matters.

The big question should be: What reason is there for him to be in school? Homeschooling, online school, public school, charter school, etc., are all viable choices. Public school shouldn't be a default option--it's one of the options and ought to be considered as such. If it's not working for him, why not change? People change to private schools all the time. No reason you can't change to homeschooling if you are sure it's in his best interests.

Do talk to your son about this, see what he thinks.

Answer 8

You should talk to his father and tell him about how it worked before and the problems with his old school. It sounds like your son would do best homeschooling, but I think you should get his fathers approval first.

  Our family has home schooled since my oldest sibling was born, and we love it! I have 6 siblings now. your son can still hang out with his public schooled friends, and he can make new homes schooled friends. Since you have tried it before and it has worked I think that  his father should probably agree sooner or later. My oldest brother is starting collage now, and so that just goes to show  just because you don't go to "regular" high school does not by any means mean you cannot go to collage!

Answer 9

You didn't answer in what way the school "sucks."  

Is it socially?  Academically?  What is it?  I think before you answer that question you should look inside your heart to find if you can handle an almost high-schooler yourself.

Would it be better for him socially, or are you hoping to homeschool because your life revolves around him and you don't know how to build one for yourself?  Are you trying to protect him from the world?  

If it really is poor academics I could understand, but I think that he probably could benefit from the social setting at school.  Your husband probably feels the same way.  It's time to start cutting the apron strings.

Answer 10

Why is his father against homeschooling?  I would find out exactly what is upsetting him about it and address that.  

For instance, if he has social concerns, join a homeschool support group and let him know sports are still an option.  (Do a google search Tim Tebow.)  If he is concerned about academics, show him the statistics on homeschooling and let him know about the homeschoolers who went to Harvard.  (Do a google search on Micki Colfax.)

As a comprimise, ask him if you could try it again for a year, and see if the results are better than what your son is currently doing.

It does sound like homeschoooling would be better for your son, so you should find a way to bring his father on board.

Answer 11

Unless someone here knows you and your family, I don't think any of us can give you a useful answer. Some kids prosper with home-schooling, and some parents are great at it. We have no way of knowing if you fall into these categories.

And you may be well educated in some respect, but don't fault people for taking your grammatical errors into account when you ask whether or not you should home-school your son. Your writing deficiencies are relevant in considering the question at hand. Are you prepared to teach the equivalent of high school English? Chemistry? Calculus?

Finally, yes, you should generally care about what a father has to say; however, we still don't know the guy, you, or your son. You say the man doesn't help, but I haven't heard his side. You say your son is intelligent (and I'm not saying he isn't), but don't most parents feel that their children are unusually bright? This just isn't the place for your question. Sit down and talk with the people concerned. If you want information to help formulate an opinion, ask questions about home-schooling itself. The person who answered before me, Stargazer Lily, seems to know a thing or two.