Should i punish my sister?

Question

i have to take care of my brother (9) and sister(6) most of the time. the two of them are somewhat close since they play with each other more than anyone else and they even sleep in the same bed.

so i tell my brother to take a shower and whenever he does my sister goes upstairs to that bathroom and they're playing and talking with each other while he's showering. i am sure she is joking with him and opening the shower and such which i feel is wrong. so i always get mad at her and tell her to come back downstairs and yet she still goes upstairs the next time he showers.

should i punish her for doing this? is this something worth punishing over?

Answer 1

what does your parents think i would but u need to go off of them

Answer 2

I don't think it's that big of a deal. She isn't doing it because of sexual curiousity. She probably just likes spending time with him.

If he is uncomfortable with it, I would talk to her. Don't yell at her for it. Explain that shower time is meant to be private and that they can play afterwards.

Answer 3

No I wouldn't punish her because she probably doesn't understand why its so big a deal and what she is really doing wrong.

Just explain to her that shower time is private and they can play after.

If you want to punish her next time shes in the bath/shower come in a dump some cold water on her lol

Its actually pretty funny for both of you and that might teach her to respect you more... but really do not do anything much more than that.

Ask if it bothers your brother and if it does and she continues to do it than you might want to maybe give her time out or something.

Good luck!

Answer 4

You shouldn't punish her for it, you don't want her to think that that kind of behavior is bad, you just want her to know that its inappropriate for her age.

Talk to your parents about it and have them decide what to do.

Good luck!

Answer 5

jsut keep an eye on her while hes in the shower

Answer 6

explain to your brother that he needs to tell her to get out.   By him playing along, he is encouraging her.  

Also, when it is his shower time, do something with your sister.  Play a game or read a book or something.  

Also, explain to her that she can't look at boys without their clothes on and they can't look at her.  You may need want to have your parents explain this to her as it may come across better.  If explaining to her that she can't do this and she doesn't listen.  Give her three warnings and then time out for x number of minutes (x being her age).  The punishment is for not listening.  

Explain to her privacy too.  She needs to learn these boundaries so no one does anything to her and so does your brother so no one does anything to him.  You are expressing good concern.  Ultimately, though, talk to your parents.  

Do he and her do the same thing when one of them is home?  If not, then they are testing you.  If they do and your parents don't care, explain to them your concern.  If they are upset by this, ask them what they want you to do when she doesn't listen and your brother doesn't tell her to leave.

Answer 7

My family experienced some incest at those ages.  My dad beating the h**l out of my brother sure put a stop to it, but it also caused a lot of harm between them.  Also, my mother's reaction to it caused harm to my sister.  Sure, the incest in itself does harm, but the punishment is definitely just as harmful.  You have to teach boundaries and privacy.  They're still pretty young and what they're doing is somewhat understandable.  How you go about teaching them really is key to how they will later think of s*x and what not.  Of course, the older one should take more responsibility, but is not always the case.  Be understanding, especially if they become defensive.  Keep the spirits up!

Answer 8

If I were you I would deffintly punish her. First of all she should not sleep in the same bed as him she is 6 for lord sake she needs to be in her own bed. Second she should never open the shower curtain when anyone is in the shower, pretty soon they both are going to go threw changes and you should stop this now before it's to late.

Answer 9

no i think u should sit her down and talk to her, explain to her that showe time is privet. And that she should not be in there whiel any one is showering. Explain that it is inapropet 4 her to do such things.

Answer 10

so wrong, your brother should lock the door, or keep your sister out. he is old enough to understand she cant be in there..as for her, still oblivios to the fact, just tell her that it is wrong. if she has been doing this, and noone has said anything she sees no harm in it