Should i really do this ?

Question

okay so im with this guy for like.. 2 years now..live in santa monica and were about to go to that next level ...which is (s.e.x)

and what im debating is should i really go for it? or save myself for marriage ..<3

what im scared of is the outcome of this because he's not tryingg to wear anything and jus pull out ! and when i say you need to be protected he says i dont trust him and gets mad! so im stuckk and i am NOT tryin to get prego until im likk 25ish at the lease!

&&he already had s*x with other girls ..so he lost his V-card already(im 16 he's 17 by the way)

so what do you guys think ? should i ?

if you say i shouldent have s.e.x what do i tell him?

&& if yes to have it how can you for VARY VARY sure not get prego and be protected ..

because if i do have it with him it will prob b my last until marriage were im not trippin on the outcome of having kids because ill be stabled by then of course ...

give reasonable answers..

p.s planed to do this tomorrow=/

Answer 1

dont do it girl!! you obviously deep down dont want to because you are asking us. how do you know he is disease free? you really dont, i mean worry about pregnancy and diseaes you have your whole life to have s*x if he cant accept that your not ready or that you want protection well that means he doesnt care about you anyway and you will find out one way or the other whether its him dumping you for this or him leaving you knocked up. so good luck.

Answer 2

The answer is simple, even if it does not seem as though it is. First, if he or yourself for that matter is not responsible enough to use some time of birth control, you should not be having s*x. I would advise condom use since he has already been sexually active.Second, if YOU feel HE is pressuring you or if you do not want to DON&#039;T. Either he will understand or he won&#039;t. Sometimes I think we girls forget that we have more &quot;control&quot; than we think we do. Do what you feel is right for you. By the way, I miscarried my &quot;pull-out&quot; birth control method.

Answer 3

if your unsure don&#039;t do it. i&#039;d save myself for marriage. its not 100% even if you were on birth control and using a condom. and even if he says he&#039;ll pull out, theres still pre-*** which he can&#039;t even feel that can get you pregnant.

don&#039;t do anything your not ready for, expecially at 16, you probably won&#039;t marry this guy and he&#039;ll dump you if you don&#039;t keep putting out. that&#039;s how young guys are(well most of them)

and vary...is spelled very.

Answer 4

If you are debating if you want to do it or not don&#039;t do it. If he really loves you he&#039;ll understand. You will feel much better if you wait until marriage. It is such a big decision. s*x is emotional and physical. There are no regrets if you wait until marriage. It might be hard to brake it to him, but just explain to him that you&#039;re not ready and that you like being a virgin. Tell him that you want to wait until marriage. Tell him that you are worried about being pregnant or catching an std. Just tell him the truth. Don&#039;t do it for him. Plus, i&#039;m not sure if this matters to you but if you are a christian you should really be waiting until you get married anyway.  Please don&#039;t do it there is almost always a consequence.

Answer 5

You can only answer this question yourself.

If you are asking for advice on it though, I&#039;d say you aren&#039;t ready.

The best way if you are planning on having s*x is birth control and a condom.

Answer 6

If he won&#039;t use protection, I wouldn&#039;t do it. I don&#039;t think you&#039;re ready for it if you&#039;re asking whether you should or not. Just explain to him that you changed your mind and would rather wait. If he really cares for you, he&#039;ll understand.

Answer 7

You tell him your virginity&#039;s worth more than some t**d who won&#039;t even wear a condom.

You can do better.  Wait.

Answer 8

Save it for marriage.  Don&#039;t let him pressure you into anything you don&#039;t want to do.  If he can&#039;t respect you wishes or wait until your ready, he&#039;s doesn&#039;t really love you or care for you the way he should.  I 100% believe in abstinence until after marriage and if you feel its not such a good idea, then maybe your right and he&#039;s wrong.  and would you really wanna have you first time which is really special with someone who didn&#039;t save their first time for you---thats part of y i believe in waiting until after marriage, there are also religious reasons too.  wait til your married to a guy who wants that special moment for both of you to happen together and after marriage and when you are both ready.  abstinence is 100% effective and nothing else is--so y use any other form of protection if it can&#039;t always work

Answer 9

Use a condom, please. You can get pregnant with the pull out method (pre *** has sperm in it). If he doesn&#039;t care enough to put on a condom after you told him, he obviously doesn&#039;t respect you enough. If you have any doubts, if you don&#039;t want to do it, don&#039;t. Losing your virginity is not only about the possibility of getting pregnant. It is a huge step. Do you really want to do it with a guy who gets angry when you ask him to use protection? There is no way to be 100% sure that you won&#039;t get pregnant. Be safe.

Answer 10

if your doubting it dont do it! he should understand, or atleast care enough to protect himself. if you are planning to have s*x with him you should try to get on birth control just to be safe and use a condom especially since hes been with other girls you wanna be safe and he should want to be to. and if youre gunna do it then deff use some sort of protection becuz as it is your not ready for s*x how are you gunna handle the consequences

good luck!

Answer 11

NOOOOO!!! Please dont be a ruined teen!!! What if you do end up being &quot;prego&quot;? and think about it! if you say no you only have to tell your boyfriend &#039;im waiting&#039; BUT if you say yes get &quot;prego&quot; then you have to tell everyone eventually...

How awful would that be? AND if you had a baby, say goodbye to hangin&#039; with friends on weekends &#039;cause before (if your parents even keep you) they will prolly make you go to thoughs class thingys! and nobody is going to trust you ever EVER again! How would you afford a baby? And how do you even know he the father would stay with you or even have anything to do with you if you have a baby?

Yeah, does it still seem worth it?

Answer 12

Don&#039;t do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Trust me you&#039;ll regret it later because you sound like a pretty smart girl to be so worried. Trust your gut feeling that it&#039;s not right. I&#039;m almost 18 and haven&#039;t had s*x because I&#039;m waiting until at least college. The pull out method doesn&#039;t work and if he thinks it will than you have a right to not trust him and if he can&#039;t respect your fear than he isn&#039;t the right guy to be your first. And if he&#039;s had s*x many times before and is only 17 than he could have an STD that he&#039;s not telling you about. Save yourself and you will be happy you did. Tell him you&#039;re not ready and that you won&#039;t have s*x with someone who doesn&#039;t respect your body and your concerns.

Answer 13

if you&#039;re DEBATING then you most definitely shouldn&#039;t. you&#039;ll know 100% when you&#039;re ready. if you don&#039;t stay with him in the end and you realize that you wished you had saven yourself, you will be very sad and sorry. just tell him that you aren&#039;t ready to go that far. if he doesn&#039;t understand then you&#039;re too good for him.

Answer 14

You should simply tell him , that you will not have s*x with him if he doesnt wear a condom ( the pull-out method doesn&#039;t work half the time , im 26 weeks pregnant from doing it )  and there is much more then pregnancy to worry about while having unprotected s*x , there is also STD&#039;s .... He may say , oohhh i dont have anything , im clean.... but the truth is MANY MANY teens and adults have std&#039;s without even knowing they have them in the first place , many people never get tested or until they wined up in the ER for one thing or another , and they doctor tested them ... PLEASE rethink what you are about to do , and don&#039;t have s*x with him unless he is wearing a condom ...

Answer 15

how old r u? dependin on ur age no or yes. email me and i can help. ive been in an expirience like this.

Answer 16

Proceed to ignore the tirade of &quot;you&#039;re too young&quot; and &quot;wait until marriage&quot; you&#039;re about to see for asking this question.

There is only one answer to this question: without a ring on your finger, no glove, no love. Period. He puts it on or he doesn&#039;t put it in. If he cares about you, it&#039;s not a matter of trust, it&#039;s a matter of health. You&#039;re ready for s*x, obviously, or you wouldn&#039;t just be asking basically &quot;how can I make him wear a condom,&quot; but you&#039;re obviously NOT ready to have his babies, or you wouldn&#039;t need to ask! If he can&#039;t understand that, you&#039;re better off not having s*x with him.

In fact, at that point, I would seriously consider reevaluating your relationship...

Answer 17

If you have ANY doubts about having s*x, or even the SLIGHTEST bit worried: DON&#039;T DO IT. You don&#039;t sound ready, and the only reason he said that bullcrap about &#039;you don&#039;t trust me&#039; is because he doesn&#039;t respect you. He&#039;s a prick! If you have been together for 2 years, he should know that you don&#039;t want to take the chance of getting pregnant until 25(ish? lol). If he doesn&#039;t respect you for that, then FORGET HIM. Just save it for the guy you marry, because this guy may not be him- and you&#039;ll probably regret it down the road.

What to say: If you won&#039;t wear a condom, then you obviously do not respect me enough, therefore I don&#039;t want to take our relationship to the &#039;physical&#039; level.

NOT TO MENTION: Since he&#039;s had s*x with other girls, he might have a(n) STD(s). Just, please, wait.

Keep us informed about you&#039;re decision!

Answer 18

If he is not willing to protect you then he does not truely love you. If he loved you then he would respect that you enough to wear a condom. The pull out method does not work. There is a small amount of seman that leaks out before the urge to pull out comes. This small amount is enough to make you pregnant.

Also, If you are asking strangers what you should do and how to tell him no, then just tell him no. He is not the one you want to share your first time with. When you meet that person and you are really ready then you won&#039;t have to ask anyone if it is right, you will know, and he will want to protect you and himself no matter how much trust there is.

Good Luck and Be Strong. Don&#039;t let anyone pressure you into anything.

Answer 19

you don&#039;t seem like you&#039;re ready. I wouldn&#039;t if I were you..tell him that you aren&#039;t ready yet. Or, if you know you are ready..get birth control if he won&#039;t do anything about it.

Answer 20

you can use spermicide and a diaphragm

or you can use a female condom and spermicide

or you can hold this off and get on the pill for a while

but out of all of those choices i think you should

save yourself for marriage!