Should i seek professional help?I have the urge to stalk a married man!

Question

I am so sad for the fact that he just stopped calling me. I am still in denial and I often find myself holding on to my cell phone just in case he calls. I know its wrong but I am so depressed without him.I am even seing a new guy but its not helping.I find myself still thinking about the married man when i am with my new guy.

However,i have been having a strong urge to stalk him just to see his face.I know it sounds bad but i am falling apart.

He is 44 and i am 23

Answer 1

seek help

Answer 2

Are you serious? That man is old enough to be your daddy! He has used you and now he is done with you. Men like him pry on younger girls, because they are naive and  easy to manipulate. Be glad he doesn't call you, so you now can take the time to grow up. Next time see men that are your age and single.

Answer 3

yup....seek help

Answer 4

There's a difference between missing someone because you loved or cared for them, and feeling sad,frustrated and hurt that yours wasn't chosen as the legitamate relationship,  Are you a competitive person?

Answer 5

Perfectly normal, perfectly natural.  You should do something fun and exciting to get him back.  How about showing up unexpectedly at a family gathering or his office.  He will love the surprise.

Answer 6

I will be quite honest with you, my friend.  It is more than likely you are experiencing these feelings because you have been rejected, by someone you cannot possibly "have" right now, and your pride has taken a hit, which brings you to a place where you want to stalk, another way of maintaining control over another person.  

You will not be able to develop and grow within yourself to your full potential until you decide to let this guy go for good.  He is not worth taking your life for.  Because that's what you're allowing him to do.  By giving him that power.  And if he is "onto" you, then you will have quite a battle within your psyche -- take his on and drop yours, or keep yours and drop his.

It is a good time for you to seek insight about you.  If that means attending a few sessions with a licensed psychologist or counselor, then by all means make an appointment today.  It is not going to hurt you to talk to a professional about your situation, but will most likely benefit you, the married dude, and the relationship you are presently in with someone else.  

However, stalking is a crime, and results can only bring negative results for you and all who are involved.  It is to be avoided -- out of safety, wisdom, and optimal mental health.

It is important that you realize and come to terms with the fact that you are a valuable person -- there is no need to have a relationship with someone unavailable and out of reach, so to speak, to understand how unique and valuable you are to yourself, your sphere of familly and friends, and the society you live in.  These are qualities that are seen through other avenues of life which are fun, challenging, and adventurous.  But without a person you cannot have a relationship with.  That's the problem in your situation, I think.  You want something, cannot have it, and are not adapting to the change well.  

Go rock climbing.  Go on a camping trip.  Go on a wild river rapids ride.  Take a hot air balloon ride.  Do something you've not done before.  Distract yourself and begin to see life through a new perspective, one that is broader and more interesting.  Let the guy go, let the rejection go, let the fear of being unattractive go -- let all of these things slip from your head and shoulders, torso, legs and feet, and fade away, as you take on new activities and adapt to changes more easily as they occur.  Because change and adaptation is a continuous process that we need, as humans, to develop and grow to our potential through which we can contribute to society and make this world a better place to live.  

Self-care is important, right now.  Adequate sleep, good nutrition, physical activity, and a little bit of pampering go a long way towards getting over a hurtful situation and learning to accept and go on with your own unique, individual, and priceless contributions.  Best wishes.

Answer 7

well depends what kind of stalking yoour doing

lol.

yes seek help your with a new guy just ennjoy who you have and not what u want

Answer 8

Seek Help Now!

Answer 9

MARRIED MAN,,,JUST THINK ABOUT THIS,,,WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND,,AND YOUR GETING YOURS NOW,BY MISSING HIM SO MUCH,,HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU,,HE USED YOU FOR BOOTY CALLS,,N IF HIS WIFE DOESNT NO U NEED TO TELL HER,,WHY LET HIM GET AWAY WITH CHEATING ON HIS WIFE,,THEN SHE MAY KICK HIM OUT THEN U CAN HAVE THE LOOSER,,,U BOTH WILL DESERVE WHAT EVER BAD KARMA COMES YOUR WAY,,,HEE HEE HEE...PEACE

Answer 10

Yeah. Get help.

Answer 11

You're actually chasing a heartbreak.  

What would you advise your very best friend, or sister in this situation?  You would tell her to forget him, to just move on...all of those things and you would know that if she didn't, she was in for complete misery.  Take your own advice.  You don't need professional help, you just need to put the love you have for that man away, in your heart, forever.  He can still live in your heart and prayers....but that's all.  And, of course, you've learned your lesson to NEVER, EVER under any circumstances, open your heart or body up to a married man ever again.

Answer 12

get a psychiatrist  

Answer 13

He's married! Leave him alone and move on I know its hard but If he cheated on his wife he will cheat on you!  Take some time to find yourself and straigten out your own life!  Start a new chapter in your life and start a new hobby or healthy habbit keep yourself occupied and Goodluck!

If your feeling depressed try to either tell a close friend all your problems or consult with your physican and maybe they can help with recommending something else.