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Should i sit in my childs classroom?

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So my son has been acting up in class for a couple of weeks now, and it is getting to the point where his grades are slipping. Do you think it would be inappropiate to sit in his class for a couple of hours, to show him him that I am not joking about him behaving?

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Yes, but for different reasons.

Kids do not act up in a vacuum. Something else is going on, and it may have absolutely nothing to do with your son. So do not observe his class with the intention of getting him to behave. Observe his class with the intention of gathering information.

We did this in our child's class and found that the teacher was abusive.
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No, I would have been doing that weeks ago if I were you.

In fact, I *do* sit in as a "teacher's helper" a few times each week even though my daughter doesn't have any disciplinary issues. I just like to stay in the loop with her teachers and what not.
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You can ask his teacher if she needs any volunteers for like grading, projects, etc.
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the school wouldnt let you.
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show him you mean business. by all means sit in on his classes. have his teacher tape his behavior so he can see how silly he looks.
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How old is the child?
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Yes do whatever it takes to let him know you care about him and won't allow him to have bad grade or get into trouble. Why has he all the sudden started acting out like this? Have you sat him down and calmly asked him what is going on in his life that is making him act out for? Has something changed in your home?

Kids normally don't all the sudden go bad with out a case.
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Tell him if you get one more report of him acting up you will do it - - if he acts up, follow through.

The embarassment from his classmates might make him shape up.

I would just recommend you give him warning of what you are considering before actually doing it.
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If he is young it definitely makes sense. I help out in a kindergarten and we have several parents come to help with centers in the morning. It helps the teacher and you will be able to see how he acts.
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my mom always said that but she never did that sux i wouldn't the teacher should do something ...
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ABSOLUTELY NOT...I AGREE WITH YOU 100% KIDS THESE DAY'S ARE GETTING WAY OUTTA CONTROL. BY YOU SITTING IN HIS CLASS WITH HIM IT WILL SHOW HIM THAT YOU MEAN BUSINESS AND YOU ARE IN CHARGE. AND THAT HIS BEHAVIORS ARE NOT GOING TO BE TOLERATED. I WOULD DO IT MY SELF IF I HAD THE TIME TRUST AND BELIEVE I KNOW THAT WOULD HELP A LOT... YOU BEING THERE WILL ALSO MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE HE WON'T DO THAT AGAIN BECAUSE HE WON'T WANT HIS LIL FRIENDS MAKING FUN OF HIM...
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According to my textbooks, most agree that this is not the answer. Try taking away priveledges, both at home and at school. And also talk with the teacher and try to pinpoint what could be the cause of the misbehavior. A lot also depends on the age of the child, to be honest.
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Not at all!

Another option that i got off of Nanny 911 and it has worked miracles on my son (1st grader) who stayed in trouble everyday  until i started this.

I got a glass jar and bought marbles.  Everytime my son has a good day in school he gets a marble put in his jar and when he has a bad day, i take one away.  Same goes for doing chores at home and making good choices.  At the end of the month he has a list of fun things that he has the option to buy.  Bowling alley, skating ring, movie theater...ect.  I put an amount of marbles that he has to have in order to purchase these fun activities and he loves getting marbles.  He has had one bad day in two weeks!!  He has made a remarkable turn around and im so proud of him.  I have two kids so i do this with both of them (younger sibling not yet in school) so she doesnt feel left out.  They have different colored marbles so they cant mix them up or take marbles from one another.

I tried to make it fun for them by letting them decorate there glass jars with stickers and they are having a blast making good choices.
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You do whatever you think you need to.

You are your child's best advocate when it comes to education. Do not rely on a teacher to get to the bottom of this. You sit in that class if you have too, you speak to the teacher and demand answers. Then you come up with a plan of action and follow through.

Now you need to examine your child behavior....does he have any new friends? Could it be a substance abuse problem. You need to take the time to go over his room and look through everything to get to the bottom of this. Oh! Sure I will get thumbs down for this but I could carealess. Your not your child's friend or buddy. They are not an equal....when things change it is your DUTY to get to the bottom of it by any means necessary. Children living under your ruff have no expectation of privacy.

When my girlfriend was younger her mom did the same why sure she hated her at the time but when she got clean she appreciated the fact that her mom cared enough to get involved.

I am one for taking responsibility for ones own actions but I am not close minded that I couldn't consider the problem could be the teacher. How if the information being taught? Are other children in the class having the same problem. Get involved talk to other parents. You need to get a grasp of the "whole" picture.
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definately go and see what goes on and spend the whole day if possible, if he does act up daily certainly in that time frame he must slip up in front of you, anyhow I would do it if i were you to at least observe.
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I did this. It only worked as long as I was there. The thing that I learned,though, was how little was actually being taught ! I was shocked. Go---what can it hurt ?
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by all means do it. This will stop the problem in its tracks.
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I would advise to work on your parenting and guidance skills. If he is failing in class, how is he doing at home? Is he studying, are the parents having a firm grasp on eliminating any bad personalities?

Psychology approach, the parent shapes the child to inherit the good traits and personalities. Without nurture, and proper guidance the child becomes a hooligan.

("'\(o.o)/"')
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Umm, no. It was done to my sister and nothing changed her but herself. Just take away all things at home. He will have nothing to do at home but homework and read.
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Yes,you should sit in his class,because if he's acting up to the point where his grades are slipping then it's become a problem.It doesn't matter how old he is, it's his education that matters.
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How old is he? If my mom did that to me when I was in school, you could bet for sure I wouldn't act up again!

Although on the other side of the spectrum, kids can be really mean, and you don't want to give the other kids a reason to be mean to him. That could be the whole reason he's acting up. When kids act up in class, there is usually an underlying reason. If there is an adult he trusts to talk to freely, they might be able to find out his reason for acting up.
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