Should i stand my ground?

Question

on wednesday night i told him i wanted to have a night in just the two of us (to spend quality time together) but he had these free tickets to some comedy show (which i didn't want to go to) i said fine go to the show so he goes 'we'll have the night in tomorrow'. but last night he gets another free ticket ( i should point out he works for this comedy venue) but the show was at 6pm, finishes at 7 pm he says he'll come home after. but at 8pm he texts me saying he's staying out and having a few drinks. i didn't reply to that message then a couple hours later he texts me again asking me to come out with him and his friends. it was like 10pm by this point and i was tired and just wanted to go to bed. then he comes home around midnight, drunk, and woke me up by having the TV on loud.

i know it sounds petty, but the thing is i'm starting to feel like a dormat. even last night i was really mad at him but i still found myself doing his laundry and making him some sandwiches for his lunch the next day. but he would never do anything thing like that for me. everytime i get mad at him, i usually cave after a few hours and forgive him, even if he doesn't say sorry. but should i stand my ground this time? he has a family event tonight which i am supposed to go to but not sure.

Answer 1

my husband was like that until i told him to f off and makes his own d**n sand-which and to clean his own d**n clothes  it worked but that is just me i would tell him if he doesn;t start listening to you and helping you then he can  stick his foot in his ***.

Answer 2

look i no ho wyour feeling,but u sound like u really love this guy,and i think you should start going to some of these comedy revues cause if you dont he may start  ckin gother girls out that really like to go to them,,u n him have a life time to share with each other,and i no women allways have ot give in bfor the guy but we r smarter than them,,our brains grow bigger than theres.lol..so we do some things we dont really like cause we do love the guy,,but in the long run he will grow up n start listing to you,and i if  were u i would go to the family event  cause if u dont he will act like a spoiled little hurt child n u to will end up fighting again,,,next time u want a day or night  for just the two of you .write  him a note n put it in his wallet,n say u promised this is the night just for us,,,just mayb he will look at it n relize he has a wonderfull gf,and she deserves his attentiion,,,n how much of a butt head his been to you,,lol ...peace

Answer 3

Hi, I think it's about time for the dreaded talk to happen. This guy sounds like he's living the single life, and forgetting about you on the way. I would sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel and what you want to happen. Tell him although you don't mind him spending time with his friends, you would also like him to spend time with you also. If he can't do both, then I'm afraid you have to make a decision on whether you can accept the way things are or finish this relationship and move on. Only YOU can change the way things are and the way things go. Good luck!

Answer 4

stand your ground girl he knows that you will always go back to him. if he says he has tickets for somewhere just let him off and some nights when he texts you to say join him say you cant your otherwise occupied make him feel that you wont be waiting for him when he comes back and he wont be long then not going out as often, your too soft if it was me i would tell him to get lost hold tuff girl let him know your not a door mat  

Answer 5

He is taki advantage of you , it made me mad reading that . I know how you feel , don't cave , he needs to learn , your not a maid and he shouldn't be putting everything before you . Tell him , if you dont start treating me with respect why should i treat you with any . Some times they are so obvlivious that they did anyhting wrong , I was supposed to go to a concert with my bf and  I was looking to get tickets , it was to a metal group he liked anyways , so i told him i was looking and then he says to me , guess where im going  and i said where and he says im going to see iron maiden with my freind , and i said how could you dop that and he thinks ts okay to say , nah ill go with you after ,what am i supposed to do turn it down ? I found that funny because thats excactley what i would do !!!! so dont let him push you around cuz he'll think it's okay andf do it more

Answer 6

He invited you out with him twice, and then asked you to meet for drinks, so you turned him down for two dates and you are mad at him.  So how does your relationship work your way or no way.

How about you go out with him when he asks and show some interest in his likes, and then he stays in with you and shows interest in your likes.  Its a marriage not we are married so we do what I want when I want

Answer 7

sounds like you want to walk away....

Answer 8

tell him if he wants something doing,do it himself otherwise he will just tke advantage of you. as for going to the movies and comedy nights with him,that should be a time for you both to bond and be happy and content with eachother,.you need to sit down quietly and talk about how you feel,make him listen and try to sort it out..good luck

Answer 9

A loving relationship should be love and respect to each other.  He clearly does not respect you and does not care about your feelings.  I think it is time to have a serious discussion with him about the future of your relationship.  If he refuses to change, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him?  

Answer 10

You have to make a stand at the start of any relationship otherwise things only get worse,trust me.Have you ever heard of the saying "start as you mean to go on," well this saying is very true.Your other half is only taking advantage of you because he knows he can and get away with it.....you even let him get away with treating you badly and not apologising for it,this is no way to let any man treat you.If you don't have the respect for yourself enough to stop him treating you like this then how can you expect him to respect you?? You have to put your foot down now hun or get treated like this (and worse) for the duration of your relationship.Unfortunatly he may not take to you being strong and sticking up for yourself,but stick with it,and if he still won't change then he never will and you are better off looking else where for someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.....good luck!!!!