Should i stay my partner?????

Question

There are problems in my relationship which are out of my control and no matter how many times i have asked her to sort them she says she will and then doesn't. I really don't know how much longer I can sit back and wait. What would you do in my position????

Answer 1

I know what your going through, recently i find myself in a similar situation and i am unsure on how to resolve the issue as well.  In my opinion I would try one last time to talk to your partner and address the issues on your mind and tell her how you feel  and how you can no longer sit back.  If she is unwilling to change and try and improve on your relationship why should you be expected to put up with it? If nothing more happens after i would suggest you end things because in a relationship you need two people to try equally as hard to make things work.  imo if my partner said they would  try and fix things and never did  i was interpret it as they didn't care about us or me enough to make things easier or happier for us so i wouldn't be able to be with someone who didn't care about our relationship as much as myself.  

About your privacy issue, try and put a  number lock on your cell phone so no one  else can  look through it. maybe you should address him yourself and  find out why hes acting that way?  

Answer 2

if we dont know what the problems are then how can you expect an answer?

Answer 3

Your partners son has some major security issues.  It seems to me that your partner also feels guilty for the anger/sadness/unhappiness that her son is going through.  Instead of her being a parent in this situation because he is 15, and loud enough to be a squeeky wheel, she finds it difficult to get parental with him.  She feels as though his point of view is not only valid, but should be taken into consideration.  Another words...he runs her.  Without professional counseling, this issue will only get worse...as you will one day come to resent him even more than you do now.  Eventually it will turn into resentment towards her for not being able to stand up to her boy.  The only way that you will be able to hang onto this relationship is if you just absolutely love her.  I know all this first hand because it's been going on here for 14 years.  Her youngins have finally grown up and moved out, but all three have moved back in occassionally to get their lives back on track.  Just when you think it's over....It starts again.  I wish you the best of luck...from my heart here...cuz you're going to need it.  If I had a chance to relive the last decade and a half...I honestly don't know if I would have made the same decisions.  And for you people that have been following my answers....There!...Ya finally got something personal out of me.....    

Answer 4

The key words here are ; Wheres the detail? if you need help of a personal nature you must be willing to tell us what the problem is.

So shes blanking you when you say lets talk, i say thats quite telling

meaning shes got something to hide, has she been cheating on you ?

do you suspect she has if so you need to talk asap, and find out why

and decide what to do after, anything else get her to talk to her .

How long have you two been married ? maybe she's become bored with married life, who knows i don't .