Should i stay or should i go!?!?!? please help!?

Question

Ok..well my dad lives in Hawaii and my mom lives in st.louis. so i either have the choice of staying there or moving to hawaii for the rest of highschool. I could soo many new experiences and college scholarhips in hawaii. but i dont want to leave everything behind in st.louis!(friends...family..etc..) What would you do?? HELP!!

Answer 1

Well, it depends? Do you love your life in St. Louis? Because going to Hawaii would be a cool fresh start - but St. Louis is the place you know. Make a pro and con list then the one with more pro's go with!

Answer 2

As others have suggested, you need to start by making a pro & con list, and really take into consideration the relationship you have with each parent, and with step-parents & siblings if you have them. Have you ever lived with your dad full time before, or have you primarily lived with your mom & just stayed with him on weekends & whatnot? When you've had a hard day or are hurt or upset who do you want to talk to? Who's the 1st person you want to tell awesome news to? Who "gets" you better? Who are you happier living with? What's the longest time you've ever spent apart from your mom? I think your relationships are more important to your happiness than your location.

I was faced with the same decision 2yrs ago, the summer before 10th, and I wish I'd really asked myself these questions. I chose to stay in LA with my dad rather than move to London with my mom, stepdad & little sisters, and I DEEPLY regret the decision. I thought I was being wise when I made it because one of my main reasons for staying is that I go to a very selective, amazing school & I thought continuing to go there would better my chances of getting into my dream college, but I didn't factor in the intense emotional toll being separated from my family would take. My relationship with my dad totally changed for the worse because I was used to him being the really cool parent, the weekend dad, & I resented him suddenly being on my case all the time. It was really rocky for a while. Things have gotten a lot better between us, but I still have to deal with missing my family every day. I should have gone with them.

If I were you, I'd stay with my family & plan some awesome trips to Hawaii. Being separated by an ocean from your mom....... being in a different time zone from her, plus switching schools would be really, really tough. Trust me. Plus, Hawaii is gorgeous, but there aren't nearly as many colleges there as there are near St. Louis.Washington University is ranked amongst the highest 20 schools in the country, and the state schools there are reputable.

Best of luck! : )

Answer 3

get a fresh new start in hawaii!!

u will make new friends

and u can visit family

do it

its a good chance take it!

Answer 4

hawaii is cool, i am planning to visit hawaii next summer yay

Answer 5

i would go to hawaii you can still see everyone at hollidays and talk on the phone and comp. this is an amazing experience and if u dont like it you can always go back home

Answer 6

make a pro and con list