Should i stay or should i go??

Question

My mum and Dad have finally split up but thats not the problem...

Problem really who to stay with... Dad has brought a new house and we have allready discussed me and my older brother moving in with him...

Thing is though that im not sure i even want to move anymore... Dads new house nice but is ages away and its going to take me over an hour to get to school and work whereas currently it only takes me about 15 minutes on the bus or 5 driving.

Dad is a better parent but i dont know if i should just put up with my mums c**p parenting for the next 1.5 years or move in with dad and have to get up an extra hour earlier every day...

I hate living will all my family most of the time but i cant afford to move out....

Also me and my brother really dont get along so i guess it would make sence for one of us to stay....

And our current house is kinda c**p... Its big and in a nice area but it just so messy that i cant have friends over or anything...

Im in grade 11 btw and i dont want to change school or my job...

Any words of advice would be appreciated

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Answer 1

mabe you should just stay to finish high school! im sure thats more important than moving. whats the whole point of graduating in a school that you've only been to 1.5 years?  

Answer 2

whatever you think will have a better outcome in the future!!!

Answer 3

if you go do you think it would hurt her or do you think cuz we all thought at that age are parents were bad until we got grown and saw differnt but you need to pray first

Answer 4

sweety all you have to do is compare living conditions spend  who do you feel comfortable  around most likely i was say your mom becuase things get awkard when you choose i say you decide (its not who you love most but who is wiht you most)  

Answer 5

In my opinion, the quality of parent is the most important thing. I'd rather do without the c**p and deal with the extra travel.

Answer 6

Tough it out until school's over, and then you'll be leaving anyways for college.

Answer 7

Well if it is true that ur dad is the better parent then u should probably stay with ur mom you shouldn`t have to move just becuz of that ur already settled in where your at so i would stay with my mom she`ll need you more trust me i know my parents waited to split up when i was 13 and my mom was the one that took it the worst so hopefully this helps

Answer 8

Make up a list about the pros and cons of staying with your mum, do the same for living with you dad then compare them side by side.  It sounds like you will be causing yourself a great deal of stress by staying with your mum, and by being close to finishing school it is important that you have as little stress in your life as possible.  Your schooling is important, and while 2hrs travel is a lot each day, you would probably spend more time stressing with your mum.  

Just a thought, have you considered living between the two houses.  Stay with your dad half of the time and your mum half the time, then you get the best of both worlds.  

Answer 9

GO WITH YOUR DAD!

for sure if hes the better parent, i wish i had done that when my parents divorced and now im in a **** situation PLEASE choose the better parent i have so many regrets now

Answer 10

Go with each for about a week to see what routine suits you best.

In my opinion,

You'll really regret having to deal with all the negitive aspects of your moms house such as messyness, her bad parenting, etc then take an hour longer on the buss.

Hope it all works out.

Answer 11

clean house

Answer 12

Think about who can care you most and you will be happy if you stay with her or him. Then choose that one. Forget about messy house or getting up early!