Should i stay or should i go ?

Question

My husbands father is a very perverted man and has climbed in bed with me on 3 occasions trying to quote "LOVE ON ME JUST A LITTLE" . i went off. kicking him hitting him and telling him to get the h**l out of my house each time. i know this is his father, but in my opinion he should not let him be around me at all. Yet he comes here every single day to take care of his horses that are at our house.

i never intended on telling him about what his dad did, but we were in an argument one night and i blurted it all out,because i KNEW what his reaction would be and what he'd do about it. NOTHING . i was right and now i am so hurt and have so much anger and resentment built up , that i don't know if i can ever get past it. any advise from someone that doesn't know me???

Answer 1

Tell hubby that you dont want and never will want his daddy but since it seems ok  and he doedesnt mind shareing  theres a guy down the road you would'nt mind getting to no.............  tell him get rid of the horses find some where eles and tht his father is not to be in the house at all with out him home and never around any kids at all  and tht if he does not like it you will have the locks changed and ring a lawyer  put an order out so tht he can not come with in so far of you  

Answer 2

Sounds like maybe your husband is just as perverted? If you can't get him to intervene and can't get the father in-law to stop then get out maybe that will shake up your husband.

Answer 3

Why would you want to stay in a marriage in which the husband doesn't have a problem sharing you with his father???? Does hubby have other issues--surely he does! Do you have a daughter? I'd certainly keep her away from grandpa if you do! This is crazy! Time for an ultimatum. Either hubby stands up to daddy or wifey goes to the cops for a restraining order/arrest/lawsuit or wifey LEAVES! Pick your threat then stick with it!

Answer 4

I FI WERE U WHEN HE COME SOVER I WOULD START LOCKING THE DOORS N B VERY QUIET,,AND IT REALLY ASHAME THAT URE HUBBY CANT TELL HIS DAD TO TAKE THOSE HORSES N STICK THEM WERE THE SUN DON TSHINE,,DOSE YOUR HUBBY REALLY LOVE YOU...PEACE

Answer 5

You are in an abusive situation- and your husband knows it.

Clearly, no one is going to help you get out of the situation, so you have to help yourself.

Get out. Make arrangements/plans/whatever to leave.  Never be alone when the father comes to feed the horses- just don't be there.  Save money for a while, find a friend to confide in, find a counselor.  Exit.  Abusive families produce abuse.  Hopefully, you don't have children with this man- keep it that way, as your entire life will become h**l if you do.

Answer 6

One: Make sure you are on the greatest birthcontrol of all time so you don't bring any children into this mess. Two: leave. Three: Get marriage counseling. Your husband is spineless. His father is warped and horrid. For you to have to be exposed to this abuse is amazing to me. See a counselor if you think it will help, but stand up for yourself. YOU set the boundaries. Obviously hubby will not. His dad probably abused him his whole life. You and hubby are supposed to be best friends. Get some help.

Talk to hubby about how you feel. Take time-outs if you are going to lose your head, but tell him what you want him to do. Tell him how what he did makes you feel. Come up with a plan to a hard situation. Listen to his side of it without being sarcastic or mean.

It sounds like this is probably more complicated than you can jot down on Answers, but I worry about your marriage, your life, and you. You do not have to tolerate being victimized. Your marriage needs help. You need help. Hubby needs help. Father-in-Law needs a jail cell. Put a restraining order on him.  

Answer 7

You are a grown woman. Tell the old guy if he ever touches you again you'll call the cops. Tell your husband that if he doesn't say anything to your father, he can move back home. Change the locks.  

Answer 8

if the old man tries it again grab his balls and twist, tell him to get out and never come back, if he doesn't go pull until he does,

Answer 9

Jus let the old man love on you a little jeeze it won't kill you... and at the same time you'll get back at your husband for being a do nothing jerk

Answer 10

dear i felt very sorry for u, but what to do any way u r facing living h**l where u r husbands father want to illicit relationship with u and ur husband have no reaction regarding it.

i think dear u not only quiet but u must soo them and let them that they are. let them go to h**l and decide some bold decision to u which are good to u and i think u can do it.

if u dont go away from that old fellow u must be raped by him.

so best of luck  

Answer 11

You need to leave if your husband won't do anything about it.  Divorce him if he won't do anything about his father.

Answer 12

It doesn't matter who's father it is, the guy is a sick jerk and deserves to get punched out. Your problem was you didn't hit him hard enough. You should have knocked the vile mangy dog unconscious and then plead self defense. Your husband ought to know everything he's been doing to you and stand by your side. But since he doesn't seen to have the backbone to act like a real husband and support you, maybe you should kick him out as well. Dear old dad is in serious need of some psychological help and shouldn't be allowed in the house or any where near you.  Your husband needs some help too who can't be man enough to see the truth and stand up to this obnoxious pervert. Enough is enough. Tell the both of these lame brained fools to stay away from you and go sleep out with the horses.

Answer 13

Oh my, that is awful!!! I think that if your husband has chosen to do nothing in this situation, you should definitely leave him. This is serious and what if his dad decided one day to take it further and really force himself on you?! If you really love your husband and want to remain married to him, then your leaving will act as a "wake up call" and hopefully he will get the message. You should not have to tolerate this disgusting behavior from his father and your husband should be willing to protect you from even his own dad. I wish you the best of luck in your situation.

Answer 14

OMG i feel so sorry for you your hubby's dad is sick in the head hes just disgusting what you should do is go to the police and try and talk to your husband and both of you can go to the counselor ...

Answer 15

if he tries to touch again then just take something like a vase n hit it on his balls that will teach him a lesson how to respect women..