Should i stay with my fiance? ?

Question

i love my fiance very much. thinking of leaving him breaks my heart... but recently have been looking at him and only seeing only the bad. everything he does that used to just bug me a little now really annoys me and i am snapping at him alot more...

last week i met a man who was lovely, i have started to have feelings towards this new man, he is married and will not leave his wife so there will be no relantionship, which i am ok with. but this new man has shown me that i am still pretty and i can still attract men to me and that there are other men out there and he has made me look at my releantionship and wonder if my fiance is the one for me. it breaks my heart to think of not living with my fiance, but i keep thjinking of reasons to break up with him.and not very good reasons to stay with him.

i dont want to leave him as i think i still love him and i have dreamed that he will be the father of my children.. but how can i marry this man and have his children if, after only 2 years, i am thinking of ending it?

how can i find the love again? how can i stop thinking that i could do better?

please help. serious answers only please

Answer 1

If you truly loved him, then those things that bugged you could be overlooked.  If you truly loved him, you wouldn't have been looking at the married man and you certainly wouldn't have gotten as involved with him to have the conversation about him leaving his wife for you.  If you truly loved him, you wouldn't be posting your dilemma here.  

You don't love him.  If you stay with him, you'll both be miserable.  You may care for him, but you don't love him.  End it now and save both of you the heartache and the financial hardship that will follow if you two marry and you realize what's already clear, that he is not the one for you.

It'll be hard, it'll be scary, but in the end, you will find someone else.  But for the sake of decency, STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN.  You don't want to be "the other woman."  

There is someone out there for you.  You just haven't found him.  

Good luck.

Answer 2

you got engaged before you really knew him.

Break it off before you invest any more time with him.

Answer 3

You are not really dealing with how you feel about him and definitely not communicating.

If you are snapping then you are already annoyed before he does anything wrong, you need to think long and hard about what your likes and dislikes are and what you would prefer him to be like.

Two years isn't a long time to be with someone and feel like this already though.

You mentioned how this other man made you feel, your partner then clearly doesn't make you feel attractive?

I think you need to have a long chat with him, you are  not making your feelings clear and this has to be sorted before considering taking the relationship further.

Good luck

Answer 4

If you feel that way this early on.. break it off.  It will most likely get worse.  

Answer 5

Ask yourself this: in 20 years time will you still be feeling this way.. chances are yes.  When that veneer begins to slip, those feelings will never fade.  And yeah, its gonna happen in all relationships but if you're doubting already and its just been 2 years its not a good idea to get married.

Don't end up looking back and regretting when you've been married 10 years and can't get out

Answer 6

my feelings are if you are feeling this way then there is a huge problem and should be talked about. No, hes not going to change and you dont want him too, thats why you fell in love with him correct? If you are thinking of someone else though then your correct it shouldnt have got that far. I have been married for 4 years now, and I would never even think about another man. If that ever comes then there must have been problems for a long time and we didnt get the help we needed to fix it.

You have to do whats in your heart, and I think you already know.

God Bless you and my prayers are with you.

Answer 7

Perhaps its thats you aren't ready as you've realised this and you want time out for yourself..which is not wrong at all because you wanna be 100% and well if you are having doubts you should wait. To truely know what you want is to have a break from it but speak to your husband and tell him how you feel. Goodluck  

Answer 8

You have been with your fiance for 2 yrs. Meeting this new man has put a bit of excitement back and has made you think.Yes because it would to any women.

I remember the first time i meant my husband and everything was exciting and he would kiss me all the time and make me laugh all the time. But as time goes on you love them to bits but the exciting bit goes and it's like that for everyone.

But you need to get over that and get over thinking you want to leave him.

Start going out together again, go clubbing, get s*x toys for the night time.

Buy some drink and buy a dvd game or something.

I brought a s*x game for my husband and it was excellent.

You need to think of exciting things. But it's up to you on what you do and only you can decide.

I hope i have helped you and i hope you decide whats right for you.

Answer 9

The little things that bother you now will get bigger and bigger.  I would totally end all communication with the new guy so you can really give your fiance one more real chance - you may say it'snot true but I'm telling you - you're vision is skewed because of new guy.

Maybe you're pms ing.  don't bail on your fiance so quickly but if you give it a real shot, and cut off the other guy and you're still super unhappy then better to end it now before you're married with kids.

Also, about the other guy, he's married, leave that alone.

Answer 10

You cannot and do not.

He is not the one for you and you will find the one for you later.

Answer 11

seat down and have a talk with him and tell him how u feeling. Maybe thing will work out for the best to end it maybe he feel the same way. You never know til u sit and talk about it don't keep him in the dark.