Should i still be friends with my ex girlfriend...?

Question

here's the situation - i still have feelings for my ex gf, but we're really good friends now. i'm ok with being just friends because i'm pretty sure that i'm going to end up hurting her again if we get back together

(not that i want too hurt her, it's just that i have to go away for a year or two).

ok here's the problem - some people (members of my family and probably hers too and her friends) think i'm only being nice to her to get into her pants.

umm please help.

(you should know - i'm not interested in getting into her pants.

i mean if she really wants to then maybe ok, but i would never pressure her or make her feel like she has to "do it" with me. we're only friends right? she was my girlfriend for almost a year before we did "it", so the "deed" isn't really too important for me in this point in my life.)

please help?

Answer 1

oh snap congrats on the "deed"! haha. No but you have to decide if your commited to this girl. If you really like her you will know from your heart if its right to keep her. If she does become a keeper make sure u take good care of her and think before you make silly decisions. Think with your head not your head. .. wait i mean think with your brain and not ur other head.. haha im so funny.. okay im stopping lol

Answer 2

Never dump them completely and always keep in touch, you never know when you may need a place to sleep or a piece of ***.

Answer 3

you have to part your seperate ways man.If not, it will only hurt worse, believe me i know.

Answer 4

yeah, you should still be friends with you but make sure you make it really clear to her that thats it! otherwise it'll be really awkward and awful.

Answer 5

no i dont think you guys should be friends because i was friends with my ex and he thought we can maybe be more than friends and i didnt want that...its wierd being friends with somone u liked or loved knowing it can never be .....i say dont be friends for the better

Answer 6

its ok bro, we both have the same situation, except for the fact about getting into her pants thing, for me, you can be friends with her you said you still have feelings, and your just friends, so how can you hurt her by just leaving for a long time? you must here my story for you to feel good, just answer one of my questins, girls are so wierd arent they?  

Answer 7

You should stay away. By keeping her as a friend, you are hurting her because she longs for you still. Either get back together with her (she more then likely misses you) or stay away from her.

Answer 8

Of coz u should. I mean u can continue to treat her nice, but dun imply her tat u still love her or wat, juz keep it natural. actually u need nt to worry abt the rumors. Juz ignore it. I think ur x-gf will understand u better than them rite? If she doesnt then I think mayb u gotto introspect abt ur relationship wif her...Continue being frens oso can proof tat u really treasure her as a true fren...btw tis is the opportunity for u to c who is the real fren or person tat really good to u n trust u.