Should i still keep up my relationship with him? i really need a second opinion here!!!?

Question

My bf text a girl that he knew over at messenger, he texted her weird messages like baby and actual flirting while in the other hand she didn't kind of respond in the same way my bf was, well anyways i was bored and i started to look over his phone and found all the messages i was in shock and so we had a fight, he denied it all the way saying it was a friend from work that used his cell phone. After all of that i was really disapointed in him but i gave him another chance funny thing maybe i shouldn't have cause on this Monday we where watching movies and i when to grab his cell phone just for curiousity and out of nowhere he grabs it out off my hand and all i could think off was "omg...not again" i asked him that i would not get mad if he let me see the message... he got pissed but then said "it was not me" and there it was again a chick that texted him flirting all the way... I'm truly dissapointed and again he told the same lie about being a friend from work who texted his wife (talk about pathetic) anyways as it is clear i do not trust him and i always have a reason why not to, Now what i don't understand is this: if he loves me as much as he says it and buys me food everyday and gives me gifts (like a camera he bought me) gives me a ride to school and is still showing affection at me then what the h**l is he doing texting chicks if he does all of that for me???? I suggested that if he wanted a liberal relationship or an orgy or something like that and that i could just watch not participate(:P) then he called me sick? (well maybe a lil) i truly don't understand him all i wan't from him is to stop the lies i wish i could trust him he's still a good guy but loves to lie (BTW he says he wants us to live together in an apartment he says he sees a future with me, and he helps me a lot in school) Soo can any guy tell me what the h**l is going around my bf mind??? i need opinions here!!!

Answer 1

Ask yourself if you see a future with someone who you can't trust because he lies to you so often.

If not, then you have your answer.

Just because someone cares about you doesn't mean they won't cheat on you. Love is not enough to make a relationship work - you need commitment, mutual respect and trust. If you're missing any of those pieces, then it's probably not worth carrying on.

Answer 2

What do you need a big fish to fall out of the sky and land on you to tell you he is texting and talking to someone else.  If he hasn't already he is doing more than that.  You need to wake up and stop asking questions that you already know the answer to.  

Now if you still want to take him back you do just that, but at the same time you can not bother him about what he is doing.  By taking hm back you accepting anything he does.  He will consider you a joke after a while.  You can do better.....