Should i stop dating girls? ?

Question

I have a really hard time commiting to girls because of something that happened between me and my mom when I was a bit younger. I would start off a relationship really well and as soon as I feel like i'm falling for her I shield up and get aloof and when it gets serious, I freak out and hook up with other girls or break up with her. It's annoying because I don't want it to happen, it just...does and even if I don't break up with her I just find myself pushing her away and finding excuses not to be with her. My friends think I should just stick with guys until I figure out what's going on. What do you guys think?

Answer 1

Aww no don't stop your a cutie ^_~

Answer 2

U Really just need to deal with the issues that u had with ur mom. these girls are not ur mother, and dont deserve to be treated this way.

Answer 3

Well yeah I guess you should just stick with guys because since like I'm a religious person I don't really believe in homosexuals (I'm sorry if you take any offense to this) but hey whatever you want it's your life. :)

Answer 4

Yea, maybe stick with dating guys until you can get your head around this. There must be a problem, and you have to try and figure out how to solve it. It doesn't mean that you can never be in a happy, steady relationship with a girl, but until you sort this out, it will not be fair on either of you in the relationship. I'm not quite sure what happened with you and your mom, but basically it sounds like its made you scared of commitment, and scared to show your real emotions. Lots of girls like this end up in happy relationships...it just takes support from those around you, and courage on your part. You have to try and find a solution, a way to deal with your emotions and stop being scared of showing them. There are many people you can talk to, such as your friends, that can help you and support you. Good luck with sorting it out, I'm sure you will get there eventually!

Answer 5

i think you're so cute and don't worry when you're meant to be with someone you will, for the meantime if you'd like to talk i'm here =]

Answer 6

yes just stick with guys

Answer 7

If you are generally happy with dating women, don't give up! I think you might need some sessions with a therapist to deal with this issue. It won't go away on its own and it could start to mess up ALL relationships, even with men.

Its not weird or crazy to see a therapist, BTW. Lots of people do and it really helps.  

Answer 8

well maybe you should see a counciller or physchiatrist or someone like that to try and help you get past it and help you commit.

because turning to guys wont help if you prefer being with girls.

Answer 9

you should follow your heart. Your friends don't even know what you feel, so ignore them. Be happy and true to yourself.

Answer 10

i think that u should stay with girls and try to figure out whats ur problem or maybe u should just have friends with benifits cuz u cant commit at all it seems like to me

Answer 11

i do the same thing, the thing is 2 remain calm even when u dont want 2. dont freak out b/c u will only scare off the 1 ur with. dating guys wont help at all. if u have 2, just tell them a small secret that u dont mind talking about. then as u get more and more comfortable u can tell them more. soon u wont have such a hard time. it just takes a little trust.

Answer 12

  It seems you understand the problem . Next time , just pull them closer instead of pushing them away . The past is over . You deserve a good relationship -  

Answer 13

dont stop dating girls because of that.  but u need to find a way to stop it, otherwise ull never be with anyone.

Answer 14

yeah i'd probably just date guys for right now till you find out why you feel as if you have to do that.Maybe you should really look into whatever happened with you and your mom,i mean really look into it and if you feel that the situation that happened with your mom is really weighing heavily on your relationship with women you either have to move on and forget what happened or not date women at all.Cause that will just make you miserable,hope this helped =)