Should i switch barns?

Question

ok so the trainer i worked for/ took lessons from just fired me for like no reason (she said because i never helped her. well she never gave me things to do!!!) one day we were on a trail ride and i was talking about a jumping video on you tube (shes teaching me how to jump) that told me a different way to jump and shes like "oh well im teaching you a different way" so shes not even teaching me the correct way to jump AND shes not teaching me on a trained jumper! she says im "training that horse to jump"

things have just been really awkward between us snice i got fired and i have skipped my last two lessons.

so do you think i should switch barns/trainers??

Answer 1

Yeah, I probably switch.  It'd be no fun to be that akward during your lessons.  Research other trainers who's methods you agree with.

Answer 2

yes...

Answer 3

Its probably a good idea...Things may be weird between you two now and its best to find someone train you the proper way.

Answer 4

There are many trainers/instructors.  Riding students don't train horses to jump.  Be more discriminating the next time you choose an instructor...you pay just as much to learn the wrong way as you will to learn the right way...interview the next one before you hand over your money....use what you learned in that video to formulate your questions.

Answer 5

Well, I don't know how old you are..but...some people especially in a barn....look for people to be self starters and motivated to not have to be asked to do things.  I see it at the barn I go to all the time..we have the girls that are supposed to work, get the lesson horses ready, sweep, whatever...in exchange for lessons..very often..you see them hanging out together..the horses are not ready for lessons and well...they spend more time chit chatting than being helpful.  I'm not saying you are doing this but mabe you are..I'm sure you must be experienced around the barn and there must be something that needs to be done...clean tack, sweep, water, clean out a stall, groom a horse...sometimes people don't feel that they should have to tell you what to do..and even if there is nothing to do, look busy!!

As far as differences of opinions...depending on what was said and perhaps how it was said.  If you are just learning to jump, how do you know what you saw on YouTube was the right way?  Instructors develop their own methods of doing certain things...although some things are just a "given" and even then someone may have found a better way that works for them in their situation with that particular horse or through experience...I'm sure somewhere down the line it will happen to you too you will have your own way to do certain things, that work for you...(if not already, in ANY situation!!)

As far as you riding a "trained jumper"...I take that as a compliment in a way...that she feels that you are a good enough rider that with her direction both you and this horse are learning together.  Did you feel this way about the horse you were riding before you had your disagreement and she fired you?  Or now, that you feel slighted and were fired that you are looking for anything to make her seem unqualified?

There is a saying.."the grass always looks greener on the other side"...so, look and see your other options and if you would be happier in that environment.  It may look great..but you never know!!

Up until this situation, were you learning and progressing, do you or others at the barn show and have successful shows?  Does she have a good following?  Just stop and think about everything before you make a rash decision.  If you feel like you might have not been helping as much as you could without being told what to do..and maybe it wasn't that you made the comment that she was teaching you wrong..but rather the tone and attitude you said it in...then I would swallow my pride and humble myself and go and talk to her.  If you feel you were wronged and feel uncomfortable there and that you can get better instruction..then do that.  

Just take the time to think it out rationally!!

Good Luck with your decision!!

Answer 6

Yes, definitely!!! If someone is going to teach you the wrong way you need to just forget about them. Especially after she fired you for doing nothing even though she gave you no work to do! I think that she just didn't want to pay you because she loves money more than anything just like my trainer! Yes, switch barns AND trainers! You should not have to deal with that c**p!

Also, she should be training you on an experienced horse not one that is just learning! If this horse does not want to go over a jump you can fall off and get seriously injured! That is a very dangerous thing to do! If you really don't want to leave then just talk to her and maybe things will get better, but it might still be very awkward. This is just my opinion, but i highly agree that you just leave.

Hope this helps!!!

Answer 7

of course....... even if the trainer was 100% correct in everything she was doing if you doubt her and do not respect her you will not be able to get the best out of your time and money..... find someone who you can trust and respect

Answer 8

yes... if your not satisfied

Answer 9

Yes Yes Yes!

if you are just learning to jump you

should be on a well schooled seasoned jumper

who has had plenty of experience jumping. Your trainer

does not sound like she is helping you at all. i dont see how many different ways there are too jump, the horse approaches, jumps, and lands, then canters/trots away. You move with him and keep him under control. I would leave as soon as you find a better barn, I dont think your trainer knows what shes doing.

Answer 10

ABSOLUTELY!!  If you aren't comfortable with your trainer, neither will you and your horse be!  Find someone you can trust.

Answer 11

i'd switch if she dosn't know what shes doing and find someone who knows what thy're talking about. idk much about jumping ill i've learned is to look up and ahead cause if you look at the jump the horse won't go over and i just let my horse figure out the rest. good luck though.

Answer 12

It sounds like you are feeling uncomfortable about the whole situation. I would move if she isn't teaching you correctly and she sounds like someone who thinks she can take control over absoulutely everything. If she fired you for not doing work that she hadn't even assigned you to do thats her loss. I believe you were a good worker so she can get over herself. there are plenty of other stables that need more helpers

Goodluck and best of wishes!

Answer 13

If you are uncomfortable with your trainer, either personally or professionally, then I would switch. It's easier to learn from someone you have a good rapport with.

Answer 14

if u are feeling like she doesnt like you, you wont learn anything from the lessons. if i were you, i would either switch barns or talk to her about it...