Should i take a chance on being with this guy????

Question

You know how they say watch how a guy treats the waitress and that's how he will treat you? Well I am interested in my mechanic and i THINK he is interested in me. The prob. is sometimes when I call and he doesn't know it's me at first he comes off as having a slight attitude until he finds out it's me. I also remember being there one time and he gave me a smart a** answer to a question. I wrote it off as being old and grumpy - hes 50ish im 30ish.

Do you think i should take heed to his attitudes and keep looking else where? I always try to be cautious and look for warning signs before i get involved with someone.

And if he is an a** I know he won't change because of his age.

What say you?

Answer 1

You have to be careful. This man has already shown you some of his true colors. Run away. Hide. Do not answer the phone without caller ID. Stop before you get too involved. You are right, this is a place for questions. Ignore people that act silly about some things.  Poppy

Answer 2

take a chance, go out for coffee. You can always end things.

Answer 3

i hope at 30 you re street smart..your alarm is going off you just need to listen..you could talk to him about his tone and moods..if he's isn't receptive to your feelings..will he ever be?? i always told my daughter to watch how they treat the women in their family..the beginning of a relationship is when things are new and exciting.if he's already emotionaly distant i don't see it getting better ..good luck..at your age you should be kind to yourself and get something with someone who has something going for them than just a warm body and you probably deserve better..good luck and gb!

Answer 4

Gee, QTee, how many questions you gonna ask about this guy. You seem to have a major crush on him. Go after him if you're that enamored.  You'll find out soon enough once you've made a move on him.

Answer 5

If you have something to offer him go for it.

Answer 6

You have seen some red flags and your paying attention. That's a good thing. Your right he will never change. I think you have picked up on an attitude that you are afraid of dealing with every day till death do you part and that could be a very long time. If I were you, I would look else where. Besides he is a little old for you. You need someone in their 30's or 40's.

Answer 7

I am 77, and one of my "motto's", if one could call it that, which I repeated to my children as they were growing up, was.   ALWAYS heed that little red flag that may pop up.  Don't make excuses for it, don't think somebody will change and don't wait until that BIG red flag, hits you on the head and puts you out.   If I were you, I would take note of the little irritating and questionable and smart ... remarks.   They won't go away, and will definitely reappear when you least expect it.   Of course, it's your life and you have choices.  It is all up to you.