Should i take my dead beat baby's father back?

Question

well I'm a teenager and i got pregnant. :(

well when i told the father he stopped talking to me and thought i was lying and all that junk..

so i was very depressed and got the "morning after pill" abortion.

after that he realized i was for real (i was keeping him updated the whole time)

then wants to say hes sorry and he loves me and blah, blah..

and just the other day he called me 4 times but i didn't pick up.

i haven't been with anyone after him and i really do have strong feelings for him..

what should i do?

Answer 1

I would see how it goes but whatever you do please do not get pregnant again as it will not fix things.

If you decide to get back together - have fun and good luck x

Answer 2

You know what, no you shouldn't. This guy who you really care for and who is meant to care for you, completely ditched you both physically and emotionally at a time where you needed his love and support the most.

Why would you want to be with someone who could do that to you? Ultimately, it is your choice but if it was me, I wouldn't as he showed his true intentions when found out you were pregnant.

EDIT: I'm not sure whether you are still pregnant as you said in your question you 'got the "morning after pill" abortion' but I still stick to my answer. I wouldn't take him back. If you're pregnant, let him be there for baby and give him that chance but not with you.

Two loving parents apart is much better than two unhappy parents together.

Answer 3

So, if you took the "morning after pill" abortion, you aren't pregnant anymore?? If that's so, I wouldn't take him back. It just goes to show that he wasn't interested in the baby and he only wants to "practice" making another one. Best of luck to you, girl.

Answer 4

I would talk to him.  I don't think that I would take him back right away, but if he wants to be there for the baby, I would let him and see how it goes.  Congrats!

Answer 5

Up to you.

Answer 6

It sounds as if he may have just been as shocked as you were. If he's done something like this before, don't. If not, give him a second chance, but make sure he knows that what he did is never okay, and that he should trust you. And if he ever does something like that again, dump him.

Answer 7

you are very young and his initial reaction was probably that of shock! only YOU know deep down how strong the relationship is and weather it can last the distance. if it isn't strong i guess you have to think 'am i ready to be a single mum' will i be able to support myself and the baby??????????? do i have family support????? you need to think hard and get counselling if need be. all the best. xx