Should i talk to my dad?

Question

I don't know my biological father. I have talked to him a few times on the phone, and he promised he would write me or call me and he never followed through. I once sent him a birthday card and i never heard anything back. It has been about ten years since I last talked to him.

He has two kids from his first marriage, they are my half siblings. Heather just turned 16 and Robbie is 20. I found them on myspace and we have been keeping in touch. I hope to meet them before the year is over. One thing that bugs me though, is Robbie keeps asking me, if I've talked to "Dad". I keep telling him, "no". But it seems that he is pushing it.

Should i give my "dad" another chance? Should i call him? To me, it almost seems like he was just a "sperm donor" and nothing else. He never seemed to care about me enough to call me when i was young and curious about him, so what would be different now?

Answer 1

well, there is a difference between being a "dad" and "fathering a child". In no ways was your dad, really your dad. I dont say that to hurt you, im sorry that you are going through this. but, you owe him nothing. he should be the one trying to reach out to you. i think he will become curious in you once he sees that you are keeping in touch with his other children. your half-siblings think you are special and i think he will come to see that too. but girl, dont chase something that just keeps on running. if he's truly a mature, good person he will realize that what hes running away from, he really should be running to.

Answer 2

If I were in your position.. I would try once more. If it doesnt work then.. just dont talk to him..

Answer 3

I haven't dealt with a situation like such, but I would definitely try to get in touch with him at least one more time.  There could be number of factors.  One can be that he feels guilty that he didn't reach out to you 10 years ago when you sent him birthday card, but that guilt kept on building up and now he has no face to talk to you.  Or it also could be that he really doesn't want to be part of your life.  But in both cases you are the initiater from the beginning so try one more time.  If he doesn't care to respond then its his loss.  I know it's easy for an outsider to say all this since no feelings are involved for us.  It's all up to you.  You can keep on trying if you want him to be part of your life or you can leave up to him to contact you.    

Answer 4

give you dad one more chance if he blows it forgeet about thats what life is all about you forgive and forget that is what keeps this world go round so you need to make a choice

Answer 5

i say just call him and ask him whats going on talk to him and ask him if he loves you like he loves the other 2