Should i talk to parents or principal?

Question

my daughter has been telling me about a boy that has been chasing her and a few times pushing her in the chest, on the playground. (they are in first grade) i some what think it is a crush thing but she keeps saying he is just being mean. i already tried talking to the teacher but she said that have talk to the principal. i have talked to family meembers and few said talk to his parents and a few said talk to principal. who should i talk to first. thanks in advance

Answer 1

I firmly believe that you should talk with the principle.  This child may have some kind of history and if he doesn't he will have for the next time.  It's good for the principal to have this information for the next time, if there is a next time.  Also I believe that the principal should be aware of the teacher that did nothing to resolve this issue.  It has been my experience that in talking with the parents, sometimes the parents will take the stance that their kid does nothing wrong, or what did your kid do to provoke my kid.  You know all the excuses.  The principal won't give you any of that stuff and should be well trained in these problems.

Answer 2

talk to principle and then talk to his parents.

Answer 3

If you know the parents then by all means go and talk to them first.  If the parents are merely someone you pass on the way to pick up your child then go to the principle and explain the situation.  If someone you dont know is confronted by you about their child then chances are they will get defensive and nothing will get solved except words shouted back and forth.

Answer 4

I suggest to talk first to the principal so that the teacher of your daughter can arrange a meeting with you and the boy's parents to talk together to the principal, so inside the office you can talk about your child's behavior and you can state the instances of misbehavior of the child.

Answer 5

talk to the principal !   If you talk to the parents first they might get mad or think you are harassing you.. thats what the principal is for.. let him do his job. he'l probably either talk to the parents or he'll set up a meeting of some sort for both set of parents.. the teacher should be the one taking care of it. so ya might should tell himm that she wasnt any help. my girlfriend is a school teacher and it is her job to make sure that the students behave. if they dont then the principal is the next step.. but since she doesnt want to help then you just need to meet with the principal.. I think you'll get a better response

Answer 6

l have been in this situation b4, and l went straight to the Principal and told him there's a boy hitting my daughter, l told him his name, and l left it with him, l did not have to see the Principal again after that..My daughter was in grade 4.

But, l do believe this boy liked my daughter.

When l was in year 7, l went through the same thing, and l know how much this boy liked me.My mum had to go to the Principal as well.

Answer 7

do you know the parents , if you do not go to the principal

Answer 8

I would ask who's on playground duty and go talk to them because that's the person who will be right there and can actually address the situation. The principal and the teacher aren't out there at recess so I don't know if they'd really do much, you know? Just tell the playground teacher what your daughter said and ask if he/she will keep an eye out for it because you think the kids are playing a little too rough and you don't want your daughter to get hurt. I think you're right about the little boy having a crush. =]

Answer 9

If you can prove that the teacher and Principal has been talked to about this situation. Take it to the school board, before it gets out of hand.

Talking to the parents is the school responsibility, not yours. Do it before the police need to be called, but make sure that they know what your next step is going to be if its not handled and stopped.

Answer 10

The teacher really should deal with the problem and stop it from happening - it is fairly normal little boy behaviour (even though it needs to stop) and it seems a little extreme to go to the principal about it.

However - if the teacher has done nothing to stop it, then I would definitely go to the principal. I would let the school tell that child's parents about it.

Answer 11

probably both. I think that both parties should be aware of the childs behavior. The boys parents should repremand their kid for doing that. Thats not acceptable. If it was a girl pushing her..that would be bullying so..it should work both ways.

Answer 12

Talk to the principal first, since this is occurring at school. If needed, the principal would call the parents in for a meeting at school.

Answer 13

You can talk to anyone you like, but the sad fact is that there is precious little adult supervision on playgrounds.

You must teach your daughter how to protect her boundaries.  Check out this website for more information: http://www.kidpower.org/

Answer 14

Principal.

Answer 15

I would go to the principal since it is happening on school property.

Answer 16

no ask his parents whats been going on.My sister was the same way as your daughter,and we told his dad.now he says hi to her.and dosent push her.we told the teacher,she didnt even do anything,principal doesnt do her work