Should i tell him and whats the best kind ?

Question

i want to start birth control whats the best kind and should i tell him ,he wants many children and i m not sure i want ,

Answer 1

The best kind of birth contol is not to have s*x.

Answer 2

You need to speak to your GP or doctor to discuss which is the best pill for you.

They all have the same effect but some have different issues associated with them.

You can also get ones that last for months instead fo the usual one where you need to take it everyday.

I think that its a shame that you don't feel that you can be honest about not wanting children - in an ideal world you should be able to discuss it.

However, i think that at the end of the day, what he doesn't know won't hurt him ;) As long as you are not pretending that you do want children and are trying to conceive, then i don't see the harm in not telling him.

Answer 3

if your not using birth control why the h**l are you having s*x.

and if you have to keep birth control secret from your partner you obviously shouldt be in the relationship because you both want such different things.

The best kind of birth control depends on what you want.

Condoms are hard to keep secret if you really wanted to go through with it but are the safest form if used properly (protect from std)

The pills are easy to use because you take one a day with a break for your period. or not at all in the case of the Progesterone only pill.

Injections or implants are your other options.

Answer 4

OK, birth control is of course a personal preference, statistically the safest way to protect against both pregnancy and STI's is to use both the contraceptive pill and a condom together (condoms have up to a 15% fail rate when used alone and you should also be aware they don't totally protect you from STI's) It sounds like you both are unsure of what you want with regards to children, so my advise is, until your sure, use both the pill and a condom until you are definite this is the man you want to have children with.

Birth control should be something BOTH partners discuss together, it of course involves the both of you!

Answer 5

Well firstly you need to discuss with your partner whether or not you're having children immediately. If you don't want children right now (and this is your choice too!), you should take birth control.

In a monogomas relationship, there are hormonal contraceptions you can use that prevent pregnancy but not STIs. (With a new, or non-monogomas partner, you should always use condoms).

The pill comes in many forms and brands, and people can get on better with one over another. You usually have to take one pill every day at the same time. The pill is ineffective if you have diarrhea, or vomitting, or if you take certain medicines including some antibiotics. At these times condms should be used as well.

There is an injection called depo-provera that you take once every 3 months. This is a strong does of progesteron, and can effect your fertility quite badly; some evidence says you may remain poorly fertile for as long after the njections stop as you were taking them, so be careful if you and your partner want kids!

There is an implant that goes in your arm and is effective for up to three years. When it is removed, fertility comes back immediately.

There are intrauterine devices (IUDs, coils), that work both by making the uterus an inhospitable place, and sometimes release hormomes as wells. Some women get on well with these, but they can make your periods a bit heavier, and some peole don't like the invasiveness of a doctor putting it in.

I believe in the US there is a contraceptive 'patch', but I am unfamilar with it.

See a family planning clinic and they can give you much more information, as well as talk about what might be best for you, considering personal medical history.

Good luck finding something you like!