Should i tell my mom that my dad's having an affair?

Question

Should i tell my mom?

She's looked the other way before, and i don't think that she'd divorce him, or even confront him. She probably already knows, it's pretty obvious, but if she does she shows no signs of it.

Should i just let her be ignorant and happy thinking she has a faithful husband or at least a daughter who doesn't know?

Or should i tell her?

Answer 1

Yes you should.

Answer 2

go buy a box of condoms and give them to your dad and tell him "i hope you are using these when you are with that bimbo" ... right in front of your mother.

why do kids have to be the grown up in today's homes?!

Answer 3

That's a really tough place for you to be. I'm so sorry that you have to be there.

I don't think that I would tell my mom. As you said she may already know, but having you know could be really painful to her. I think that I would confront my dad, though. Tell him you know. Let him know what a crappy place he has put you in. Tell him how you feel. I know he's your dad, but I wouldn't spare his feelings as he's the one who got himself into this situation in the first place. Maybe that will wake him up.

Best of luck to you and your mom.

Answer 4

You should tell her. What would you want your daughter to do if you were in your moms shoes? Thats bullshit! Your mom deserves better. If you tell her and she decides to look the other way thats her decision but atleast you told her the truth and dont have to live with a lie. Good luck! Keep us posted, want to know what she says.: (

Answer 5

yes you should other wise your mom will be thinking he loves her but he really doesn't

Answer 6

No don't tell your mom.  But confront your dad.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

no you should not! well not at first anyways. Have a talk with your father and tell him you are gonna tell your mother if he doesn't end the affair. Let him know that it is not fair to your mother. you most likely will find out then if your mother knows about it. One question, why did your mother turn the other way when she found about his first affair? i feel your mother needs some sort of therapy. She needs to get a back bone and be strong for herself. no one should stick around to be cheated on. Now i'm completely against divorce but no one should allow this to happen to them.

Answer 9

You dont say how you found out - or do you just suspect???

This I think is between your parents - if you suspect, then the chances are so does your mum.

You have also said that in the past she has looked the other way, she is probably doing that now - you highlighting the awful thing your dad is doing will not help.

I do think though that if you do know without doubt that is this happening you should tell your dad that you know - and that you think he should come clean to your mum.

xx

Answer 10

Chances are that if you know, she knows too. keep quiet.

Answer 11

Don't just tell her directly..It would be awkward for both of you..try hintin..she'll probably get it..

Answer 12

Probably. I mean, it's a touchy subject and ur gonna have to be prepared and really think about what ur gonna say. I mean, my dad had an affair and my mom herself found out about it. She hesitated 2 tell me but when she did it was a painful, long, awkward converstion. So yea its a tough thing to tell some1 but u probly should.  

Answer 13

if she already knows i think you should let her know you do too.and you can work through it together. as for your dad i would MAKE SURE i let him know you know what he has been doing. he cant get away with it forever and your parents have put you in the worst possible position(that is only if your mum does know that im reffering to as PARENTS)

Answer 14

You should talk to your mom and the two of you should establish a consensus on what to do. In dealing with someone who has done wrong, it is important for that person to be confronted with the truth and then to give that person a fair chance and time to explain and correct himself. If that party admits, confesses and repents, then the family unit can forgive and move on. However, if the party refuses to change, that action alone is a judgement on himself.

To hide the problem is not to solve the problem.

It will just be a hidden time bomb.

But you need to bring up the issue in the spirit of love and reconciliation, striving for the good of all parties concerned and going back to basic roles, responsibilities and interests of all members in the family.

Remember:

The Truth will set you Free.

Answer 15

if u dont think she'll do anything about it then dont tell her,it'll just cause her alot of pain.what u can do is confront ur dad,maybe u can get him to stop.

Answer 16

well. depending on how your family is affected, you should.  

i think she'd want you to be honest, and share that with her, even if it hurts.

now, do you know for a fact that your dad is cheating, or are you just assuming??

because if you do know for a fact, then definetley tell her, or even confront your dad yourself.  just tell him, look, i know what's going on, and it's really hurting me and mom, etc...

but if it is not a known fact, then tell your mom, i think dad is cheating on you, etc... and ask her to confront him about it.  

and i'm so sorry you have to go through this. :/

best of wishes to you and your family, i hope things turn out well for you all. :]

Answer 17

I's a really hard thing to be in the position you are in, and it would be nice to know your age. Many parents of both sexes are unfaithful to their spouses. I am sure that your father would be horrified if he knew you were aware of his infidelity. That being said, there are many reasons why one spouse or the other is unfaithful, and although it is hard for you to bear the knowledge, perhaps you should confront your dad about this before you approach your mother with your suspicions.

If you are old enough to understand, perhaps he will explain some of the reasons why he is being unfaithful. Don't judge lest you be judged. Don't put a wedge between you and your father or mother that may not be necessary.

it appears that you are young and unmarried, one day when you are married you may be able to be more tolerant of what seems so wrong to you right now.

Jay    

Answer 18

u really shud tell ur mom n also convince her to do somthing this time .. tell her dat ur dad didnt know da meaning of a family so he dnt deserve it (no offence) .. hope things will work out wid u ..

Answer 19

I would tell her and Id stand up to your dad too.

Answer 20

No. It's better you have two parents, than one.

I grew up and orphan. I had none. <}:-{(