Should i tell my mom what he did ?

Question

i was at my bf's earlier and he asked me if id have s*x then, i said no he put his hand on my leg and was asking why not, give him answer "i aint ready & i wanna wait" i thought nothing of him putting his hand on my leg he usualy does it. i was gonna go home & he got to his bedroom door b4 me & said "ur not goin home.." i wanted to go home cause he was been too "touchy". he pinned me against the wall & give me a massive horrible hicky. i tried to push him off but he wouldnt. i told him to back off or id shout *his mom was downstairs*..he dumped me and said "whats point in a relationship when u wont do anything.."

Answer 1

man that's gonna leave some psychological problems on you in relationships in the future. he should have respected your standards and he should know that s*x is not the priority concern in relationships. you should have made a comeback to him and said: "what's the use of being in a relationship if the person doesn't respect your standards." yes! u need to talk to your mother about this incident...im pretty sure that there was a time that your mother was pressured to do the nasty with a guy and can give u some excellent advice. she will respect you for trusting her also.

Answer 2

You should tell your mother what happened. Then you should stay a way from him. All he wants from you is s*x, it is clear to this old man he does not respect you and your feelings. If he does not respect you he does not really love you either.

Answer 3

Tell your mom and tell his mom if you feel comfortable.  Forget him. A real boyfriend would respect your decision. Don't let any guy ever push you around.  

Answer 4

Yes. He was to aggressive, you said no and he didn't respect that. That is scary and you are lucky he didn't pursue it further. He will probably deny it, but I think you need to tell your mom, if you don't he may end up doing worse things to you or someone else. The point of a relationship isn't "doing anything" it is enjoying who you are with for the person that they are. a relationship isn't based on how far someone will go with you. This boy needs a reality check before he hurts someone very badly.  

Answer 5

definitely tell your mom.

that's like sexual harrassment.

tell your mom as SOONas you can.

make sure you have the hickey to prove it and

any other evidence proving what he did.

Answer 6

His communication skills suck.

Tell your mom so she can whack him in the head next time she sees him.

Figure out how to get with a nicer guy, who'll talk to you, not try to bodily force you into getting intimate. This guy doesn't want a relationship, he just wants puxxy.

Dang. He's lucky you didn't knock him out when he wasn't looking, what loser and an axx.

Answer 7

You handled it properly.  I don't think there's a need to tell mom unless the hickey is conspicuous.  You're fortunate to be away from that neanderthal.

Answer 8

i don't see why you need to tell anyone, if he had actually raped you then i would say h**l yes tell someone.  but i would just be glad you're not in that relationship anymore.

Answer 9

Wow he's a an assholee since he dumped you like that. I think you did the right thing! You weren't ready and he tried to persuade you. He's an idiot if he thinks that a relationship is all about s*x. lol you go girl :)

xoxoxo Annie May!

Answer 10

If you really like him, then you should really consider telling someone. He could have a disease and transmit it to you, and if you aren't ready he should wait. If you don't like him anymore then tell someone. This could be considered rape. Also if he is over 18 and not within 3 years of your age it rape too. (This doesn't apply if you're over 18). Hope this helps!

Answer 11

you are better off without him! if he can't wait for you, he doesn't deserve you! don't settle for that scum. yes tell your mom and maybe she can help you. good for you for standing your ground. you did the right thing by trying to go home.  

Answer 12

Definately tell your mom!!! What that prick did to you is called abuse! He's not worthy of being your boyfriend - you deserve better. Your next step should be notifying the police before he lays his dirty hands on anybody else. Good luck hun!

Answer 13

no u shouldnt tell ur mom u have a mind of ur own! and u should leave him! obviously he just wants u for the s*x and that's it. so its either u leave him or make it very clear that u wont accept this and if he does it again then its over between u 2. i prefer the 1st option tho

Answer 14

You can tell your mom or not... that part of the issue doesn't matter one way or the other.

But this so called BF seems to have shown his true colors, that he's not really interested in a "relationship", his real goal is just s*x.

You need to dump him as quick as possible.  Today it's just a forced hicky... stay in the relationship and within a year, something else is going to get forced.

Answer 15

You have to tell your mom about the incident....that should be right away.

Sounds like he would not have hesitated to rape you if his mom hadn't been present downstairs.

There is no reason to be in a relationship if there is no effort to respect your wishes.

Answer 16

That is not behavior any boy should have toward a girl.

It was sexual harassment, and you need to tell a parent or trusted adult.

Answer 17

You should def tell your mom, not only for your sake but for other girls he might do this to! It's not right, and if he doesn't get help, it will be worse as he gets older! Please tell her!  

Answer 18

you should talk to your mom. what you did was a good thing and I'm sure your mom would be proud of you. and something should be done about that boy.

Answer 19

I believe every word of it and 100% good job to you for sticking with your gut and beliefs. I think that he wasn't worth the time if you are olny worth his time in bed. Now next time I suggest not shuting his bed room door or possible being at your house instead.

I think that you should tell her when she ask why you broke up!

Answer 20

You should tell your mom what he did.  Its good that you said no.  Because you seem too young to deal with the consequences of s*x.  If this guy dumped you because you wouldn't have s*x with him, he is definintely not worth another minute of your time!  He just proved he doesn't care about you, and only wants one thing.  

Answer 21

alright you've already gotten like 50 billion answers for this

and i definitely agree:

TELL YOUR MOM.

(:

BUT ALSO...

you need to tell him! Tell him that if you did have s*x who would be the one getting pregnant and c**p? He sounds like an irresponsible jackass.

Good thing he broke up with you hun, (no offence)

cause you should have def. broke up with him after that.

& make sure his mother finds out too

Good luck dealing with this:/

Answer 22

Yes you Need to tell someone, just because you weren't raped, doesn't mean he didn't take advantage of you, HE DID! He only wanted to be with you to have s*x with you and that is not right! He is a loser and he WILL not get far in life! But you need to tell your mom! It will be okay and it will make you feel better! Please, please tell her!

Answer 23

yes tell your mom, & don't ever talk to him again. you don't need a guy to treat you like that. make sure your mom lets his know how he is acting too.. how old are you??

Answer 24

ooh my gosh that was horrible! i am so sorry! yes you should tell your mother. and never let him back in your life. but im sure everything will work out eventually. and NO it doesnt seem fake. good luck with everything!

Answer 25

I would.  This guy clearly has sexual predator tendencies and you need to protect yourself from him.  You should tell your mom what happened and you should make sure you never see him again.

Answer 26

He is a total jerk. Not every guy is like this, but there are a lot out there that act like him. If  you are comfortable telling mom then do so. If not then wait until the time is right. Just make sure you are never left alone with this guy anymore and stay away from guys like this period. Take care of yourself and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. And I am proud of you for standing you ground.

Answer 27

That sounds a little scary sweetie!! Don't take that c**p from any man!! Not now, not ever. NO MEANS NO!!!! You should defenitly tell your mom. I agree with some of the other answers...this behavior could lead to rape!! And don't be afraid to tell her cause you think you might get in trouble. Trust me! You won't!  

Answer 28

He is the biggest a*****e ever. you should tell your mom defintley. and get a much better bf hun!!  

Answer 29

If you feel you and your mother have a very close bond, then yes I  think you should tell her. What he did was wrong. Guys just can't take "no" for an answer. You don't deserve that kinda **** and your better off without him.

Good Luck!

Answer 30

yes you should tell your parents and have your parents tell his.  Or call the police and have them tell his parents  

Answer 31

He's a loser and you don't need him.  You deserve respect and to be liked for who you are, not what you can do like that.  Enjoy your innocence as long as you can.