Should i try an find my dad?

Question

im 14 years old and have never ever meet or seen my real dad im living with my mum and horrible stepdad at the moment but i feel as if theres something missing i think i need to meet my real dad. when ever i ask my mum bou him she changes the subject. i feel soo allone i dont no wot to do or how to find him helppp xx

Answer 1

I think that would be nice because he probably thinks a lot about you and will wonder how you are getting on in life.

Nothing to lose by making contact.

Go for it, good luck

Answer 2

  

do try to find your dad

but try not to be disappointed

if it is not what you want

Answer 3

I just talked to my biological father for the first time and I am 24 years old. I wrote him when I was 14 and never got a response. We are now both adults and are trying to build a relationship. I was there and I know how terrible it feels, but you have to keep in mind that he may not want to be in your life. I would suggest the internet. Searchbug.com, send him a letter. Keep in mind that he may not work how you want it to that way you are not tooooo disappointed. Good Luck. Also remember your mom has been there for you from day one, she is the one who goes without for you, she is the one who was there when you were sick, talk to her and explain how you feel about your biological dad. Good luck!

Answer 4

why? he never cared enough for you to be a part of your life

he is not a white knight that will come to your rescue but a no good who got a girl pregers and left her to fend for herself

Answer 5

Finding your dad may help this feeling but you need to speak to your mum and tell her how you feel she may be able to help

Answer 6

If you feel there is something missing, or just out of curiosity, then yes you should try meet him. However you should wait until you are older, because your mother might be protecting you from him for a reason. =)

Answer 7

yes because I'm trying to dot the same thing after 30 years

Answer 8

You need to do this or it will eat at you.If you find him,make up your own mind about him,dont believe any stories from either parent.You dont have to like him or want to see him again,just satisfy your curiosity.

Answer 9

I feel really bad for you :-(  I think that you need to find you dad, or at least find out his e-mail or phone number in a phone book and give him a buzz.  It might not be as great as meeting him in person, but it gives you the feel of his personality!

Hope you find him

Peace!

Answer 10

if your mom changes the subject it might be for a reason.....

but talk to your mom about it that you would like to meet your dad i mean he is your dad ..

you should also have a serios talk with your mom about your stepdad

Answer 11

wow, thats the exact same situation i was in a couple months ago, im 16 and i live with my mom and stepdad who is a complete a*****e to me. I wasnt planning on ever meeting my dad considering as to how he just kindof left when i was 3 months old and started a family in colorado. I saw him at my cousins funeral and it was the most awkward thing ever haha we talked and i dunno, i didnt really get anything special out of it, but hey go for it, I think you should try and find him =] ask your mom or hire a private investigator or something

best of luck

Answer 12

well if he was never there then why would he ever be?

good luck

Answer 13

When you were twelve you became entitled to get in touch with your dad. The best way to do this is by letter. Tell him all about yourself and say that you would love to meet him. Avoid mentioning your mum and step dad as that can come at a much later date, meeting him is your priority and your concern. I really hope that he gets in touch with you and it all works out, but at this stage don't build your hopes to high. One thing I can tell you is all dads love their little girls, I know I've got two. So get his address however you can and send him that letter. Whatever your mum thinks has no bearing this is for you.

Answer 14

i met my dad for the first time when i was  8..and looking back on it i wish i never would have met him because he doesnt try to be in my life at all..i use to think my stepdad was horrible too but now i'm older and wiser i see that hes my dad he took care of me..it takes more than just blood to be a dad..thats just my story

if you really wanna find your dad then thats your choice and if you mom wont tell you then ask your grandparents..or you can go to ancestory websites that may help you..if you were adopted by your stepdad like i was then you can go and ask for your fathers real name and stuff like that

Answer 15

If that will make you happy then do it......hope all goes well for you....

Answer 16

I would wait until you are a bit older.

Four more years you will be 18, can move out , maybe live in college accommodation.

Start looking then.