Should i wish my mom a happy mothers day?

Question

ive been with my adopted family for 2 years now and just got adopted in the end of january.i talk to my bio mom once in a while since it was open adoption but

should i call her and wish her a happy mothers day?

do you think that might upset her?

Answer 1

Your "Mom" is the one who adopted you - I hope you did wish her a Happy Mother's Day.

Contacting your bio mother is just cruel. Leave her alone.

Answer 2

It sounds as if you are thinking of her, so I think you should call and tell her so. She might get emotional about it, but I bet she would appreciate it very much.

And ignore the others who think she isn't your mom or tell you to think about your adoptive mom. I'm sure you already have wished your adoptive mom a Happy Mothers' Day -- I mean you are living together and all. But that wasn't your question, was it?

You shouldn't have to choose between them. Wish them both a Happy Mothers' Day and tell them how you feel about them.

Answer 3

She is your mom too just call her....she will love the fact that you took the time to honor her!!!!

Answer 4

I think since you talk to her once in a while, it wouldn't hurt. I was adopted as a baby and am now 26...but met my b/mother at age 18( mine was closed) and every year i send her a happy mothers day card a call her as well. She will never take the place of my adoptive parents..because they are my mom and dad...but its nice to acknowledge your b/mom if youare on speaking terms. goodluck  :)

Answer 5

I think you should!! She birth you and always don't matter how u see it she is going to be your mother untill u go back to  jesus!!

Answer 6

A mother takes care of their child.....

Answer 7

i would defanetly call her and tell her u care for deeply

Answer 8

wish both your bio mum and adoptive mum happy mothers day, let them know that you love and care about both of them

Answer 9

If you want to - yep - I'd say - go right ahead.

Please ignore all those that say that she is no longer your mother.

She is.

An adoptee has 2 - sometimes more - mothers.

That's our realities.

You don't have to choose a side.

(it's mainly only adoptive parents that want you to choose a side - because they are insecure with their own parenting skills)

You're a minor.

You had no say in your adoption.

You can choose to honour whomever you please.

You can choose to feel whatever you feel.

Anytime you need some support from other adoptees - check out this great online forum - that even has a teenagers board!! -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index...

Take care of you.

Answer 10

yeah it would be a good idea , and it would show you still care about her

Answer 11

Its up to you.  I'm sure it would touch her deeply if you did call her.  I'm sure she'll be emotional, but not upset.

Answer 12

i think i would wish her it but it really is up to how you feel. i think she would probably appreciate it.

Answer 13

Well, do you like the woman? If so, why not with her a "Happy Mother's Day?"

Why would that upset her? Well, actually I can see where you're going with that...

I don't know. Go with your instinct. I went with mine, and decided to wait until next year. That's ok though, every cloud has its silver lining, and I can be sure to stock up on goodies during the after holiday sales.

Answer 14

Absolutely! I think that would mean the world to both you and her! Don't forget about your foster mother!

Good luck! :)